I have worked with the issue of domestic violence for 25 years and thought I was immune from the heart-wrenching ache when seeing what one human being can do to another. I learned I’m not. Like many, I was drawn to yet sickened by the alleged tape recordings of Mel Gibson’s raging statements to his former partner and mother of his child. Unfortunately, as distressing as the calls were, I found that nothing he allegedly said or did is unusual for a batterer.
Asia McGowan, a 20-year-old student at Henry Ford Community College outside Detroit was murdered on campus by a man who’d stalked her. Why aren’t feminist resources for domestic violence and stalking available at community colleges?
The reason that people blame Rihanna or any victim of a gender-based hate crime is that the supposed protection of the patriarchy is only extended to good girls.