The popular phrase “the brain is the most sexual part of the body” leaves me with lots of unanswered questions.
The language in a new abstinence-only bill that passed the Tennessee senate demonstrates the profound misunderstanding of sexual realities that guides the anti-choice movement.
Lots of people take birth control pills because they are having sex and they don’t want to get pregnant. In fact, 86 percent of us take it at least in part because we want to be able to have sex and not get pregnant. Reproductive health, rights and justice advocates think it’s a really good thing that women have autonomy over their bodies, their sexuality, and access to a full range of good choices about how to manage their fertility.
On the whole, people who go about sex in a goal- or product-oriented way tend to feel less satisfied with sex and their sex lives.
You should experiment and communicate with your partner and should do the things together and alone that feel uniquely good for both of you — not just one of you — at any given time.
A review of the film Orgasm, Inc. about the medicalization of female sexual pleasure in the US and a look into what female sexual dysfunction is and who benefits.
If the sex that you’re having is really about you and your partner– if it’s an expression of who you both are, what your relationship is, and how you feel about each other and if it’s what you both want and feel ready for, it’s special.
If all we do with a partner is what feels good to us and what we want, and deny that partner everything which could feel good to them, we’re not really having partnered sex: we’re using that partner as a masturbation aid, and that’s not cool.