Plenty of things that have been or still are considered “traditional,” are or may be based in sexism or other kinds of inequality.
If the sex that you’re having is really about you and your partner– if it’s an expression of who you both are, what your relationship is, and how you feel about each other and if it’s what you both want and feel ready for, it’s special.
One part of readiness for sexual partnership — and it’s a biggie — is being able to hear, accept and respect another person’s limits and boundaries, not just using someone else to get your rocks off.
People are too often not as concerned as they should be about a partner’s readiness for sex, often assuming males are “always ready.” This pervasive double standard hurts both men and women.