There’s no “should” for when and if we feel ready for any kind of sex, or want to engage in any kind of sex. And no one knows better than you when, and if, that time is.
The expectation that men will always go for sex or don’t have sexual boundaries is super problematic. So, how do you deal with men who feel challenged, and how do we move toward a mindset about men’s sexuality that’s better for everyone?
Last weekend I had a revelation. It was well into the second hour of an interminable dance recital and little boys were twirling little girls in mock romance while the audience cheered, and it hit me; when it comes to the sexualization of young girls, we are the problem. We are society. We are the ones who send our girls mixed messages.
My very best advice for anyone, when it comes to any kind of sex, is to only engage in what you truly want to, for yourself, not just for someone else because it’s what they want from you.
Lots of people take birth control pills because they are having sex and they don’t want to get pregnant. In fact, 86 percent of us take it at least in part because we want to be able to have sex and not get pregnant. Reproductive health, rights and justice advocates think it’s a really good thing that women have autonomy over their bodies, their sexuality, and access to a full range of good choices about how to manage their fertility.
The claim that mandatory ultrasounds are about information has no basis in research or common sense. Luckily, conservatives are beginning to abandon that argument and admit that it’s all about punishing women for having sex.
Anyone, of any gender or any age, may not feel like it is best for them to choose to be sexual in a given situation, even when presented with an opportunity for sex, even when that opportunity is with someone they have a strong desire to have sex with.
Use of erotic imagery to promote family planning (as opposed to HIV prevention) has been less the norm but this need not be the case.
Want to do your part to help prevent the spread of HIV this World AIDS Day? One of the easiest ways we can all do that is to use condoms correctly and consistently, avoiding common mishaps which can result in rips or breaks.
What to do when what’s supposed to feel like a sexual milestone feels more like a raw deal, including sorting through feelings of upset about a partner’s sexual history.