“Reproductive justice isn’t just a women’s issue; it’s a people issue.”
In response to the recent discussion about a “bro-choice” movement, I’d like to offer a defense of continuing to talk about abortion as a women’s issue, and pointers for how men can be supportive as allies within that frame.
The expectation that men will always go for sex or don’t have sexual boundaries is super problematic. So, how do you deal with men who feel challenged, and how do we move toward a mindset about men’s sexuality that’s better for everyone?
Anyone, of any gender or any age, may not feel like it is best for them to choose to be sexual in a given situation, even when presented with an opportunity for sex, even when that opportunity is with someone they have a strong desire to have sex with.
Have a partner who wants to step away from sex with you or take a break? If you’re wondering what to do to change that, the only right answer is nothing at all. We need to always respect a person’s sexual limits and boundaries, whatever their gender.
For someone choosing to hold off on sex until marriage, what to do about the fact that most other people, including potential partners, will not have made the same choice? How much should your own sexual ethics and values hinge on those of others?
Who is curious about, wants or enjoys receptive anal sex? People who are curious about, want or enjoy receptive anal sex. What does that alone tell us about someone’s sexual orientation? Nothing.
If and when we want to have sex in such a way where we only think of our own wants and needs, we can always have that easily with masturbation. But once more than one person is involved in sex, more than one person needs to be seen, heard and considered.
Is it better to be a man or a woman when it comes to sexual pleasure?
I wonder if Bill O’Reilly would be so worried about alcohol getting in the way of contraception if men were responsible for birth control.