What will it take to get ordinary, everyday people to accept that sexual assault is a terrible crime? Over and over again, we’re seeing that when someone is sexually assaulted—especially a teenager—communities react by supporting the assailants and castigating the victims.
Anyone, of any gender or any age, may not feel like it is best for them to choose to be sexual in a given situation, even when presented with an opportunity for sex, even when that opportunity is with someone they have a strong desire to have sex with.
Have a partner who wants to step away from sex with you or take a break? If you’re wondering what to do to change that, the only right answer is nothing at all. We need to always respect a person’s sexual limits and boundaries, whatever their gender.
Who is curious about, wants or enjoys receptive anal sex? People who are curious about, want or enjoy receptive anal sex. What does that alone tell us about someone’s sexual orientation? Nothing.
If and when we want to have sex in such a way where we only think of our own wants and needs, we can always have that easily with masturbation. But once more than one person is involved in sex, more than one person needs to be seen, heard and considered.
Is it better to be a man or a woman when it comes to sexual pleasure?
Do you have to worry that simply by virtue of being a male person with a sexuality, you’ll abuse someone? No. Being a certain sex, having a certain gender or having a sexuality does not mean a person has any kind of innate predilection to abuse.
Gender and gender identity are complex and diverse: there’s not just one way of being a girl, being trans gender, and those also aren’t your only choices. So how do you figure out where you’re at when the little boxes don’t seem to fit?
As men and women move closer to equality, the traditional gender-inequality holdouts are positioning themselves as the ones who will “make men, men again.”
People are too often not as concerned as they should be about a partner’s readiness for sex, often assuming males are “always ready.” This pervasive double standard hurts both men and women.