Too often, “love” and “justice” are understood in completely different categories. In fact, they are just different incarnations of one another.
Anyone, of any gender or any age, may not feel like it is best for them to choose to be sexual in a given situation, even when presented with an opportunity for sex, even when that opportunity is with someone they have a strong desire to have sex with.
What to do when what’s supposed to feel like a sexual milestone feels more like a raw deal, including sorting through feelings of upset about a partner’s sexual history.
If and when we want to have sex in such a way where we only think of our own wants and needs, we can always have that easily with masturbation. But once more than one person is involved in sex, more than one person needs to be seen, heard and considered.
How can you tell Mom you’ve become a sexual adult without disappointing her? How can you ask her for birth control? How can you disclose being sexually active? And is it okay to use her sex toy eithout asking?
Do you have to worry that simply by virtue of being a male person with a sexuality, you’ll abuse someone? No. Being a certain sex, having a certain gender or having a sexuality does not mean a person has any kind of innate predilection to abuse.
For years, research on adolescent sex was so entrenched in a risk perspective that “adolescent sexual health” was an oxymoron. Today, a new science of adolescent sexual heath is emerging that may help us look beyond risk.
The Internet has truly changed the way we communicate, socialize and yes, find love and sex. Actually, there are few areas of our lives that have not been dramatically changed by the Internet.
There are many layers of "Love." When we have the "talk" with our children, how do we successfully address the complexities of love and sex knowing that they are sometimes but not always related?
bell hooks said, “Love is a combination of six ingredients: care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust.” To her list, I would add “connectivity.”