How do you reach orgasm from a given kind of sex when you just can’t? And how do you feel satisfied by sex if you’re not reaching orgasm?
There’s no “should” for when and if we feel ready for any kind of sex, or want to engage in any kind of sex. And no one knows better than you when, and if, that time is.
What to do when what’s supposed to feel like a sexual milestone feels more like a raw deal, including sorting through feelings of upset about a partner’s sexual history.
Do “all guys” really always want more sexually than you really want or feel ready to do yourself? No. But even if they did, that doesn’t mean it’ll always be right for you — or them! — to engage in sex you don’t feel ready for yet or don’t really want yourself.
Is one reliable method of contraception okay, or do you need two? There’s no rule for everyone, just what level and kind of protection you want and what you feel best about.
Does vaginal intercourse hurt? Feel like you’re the only one in the whole wide world who doesn’t think it’s the best thing ever? Here’s a reality check and some places to get started to ditch sexual pain and find pleasure instead.
If you’ve been faking orgasm and want help on how to come clean and have a talk about it that’ll lay the groundwork for a better sex life that’s about and allows for what’s real, we’ve got you covered.
You should never feel afraid you have to do anything you do not want to just because someone else wants it from you for themselves, very much including having sex.
It’s important to take a good, honest look at what you both want and need, what you both are and are not interested in sexually, and then to make some choices.