Anyone, of any gender or any age, may not feel like it is best for them to choose to be sexual in a given situation, even when presented with an opportunity for sex, even when that opportunity is with someone they have a strong desire to have sex with.
Have a partner who wants to step away from sex with you or take a break? If you’re wondering what to do to change that, the only right answer is nothing at all. We need to always respect a person’s sexual limits and boundaries, whatever their gender.
Who is curious about, wants or enjoys receptive anal sex? People who are curious about, want or enjoy receptive anal sex. What does that alone tell us about someone’s sexual orientation? Nothing.
Do “all guys” really always want more sexually than you really want or feel ready to do yourself? No. But even if they did, that doesn’t mean it’ll always be right for you — or them! — to engage in sex you don’t feel ready for yet or don’t really want yourself.
If and when we want to have sex in such a way where we only think of our own wants and needs, we can always have that easily with masturbation. But once more than one person is involved in sex, more than one person needs to be seen, heard and considered.
Gender and gender identity are complex and diverse: there’s not just one way of being a girl, being trans gender, and those also aren’t your only choices. So how do you figure out where you’re at when the little boxes don’t seem to fit?