The best any of us can do is be self-aware in terms of our feelings as well as our needs, limitations, life goals and relationships, and make our sexual choices based on those things as well as sound information.
There are bisexual people in the world who find that they have fairly equal levels of attraction to people of all genders, but I’d say it’s more common to find that we have differences in how we experience different genders and different relationships.
Using withdrawal may have sometimes protected you, but you’ve been lucky — and at risk for a sexually transmitted infection.
What I hear you saying is that you’ve yet to be in a situation or relationship where sex has really felt like the right thing for you, or like something you wanted and took part in on your own terms.
Libido — the desire for sex of any kind — is a very complex thing, much like sex and sexuality are complex.
In honor of Masturbation Month, Heather answers young women’s questions about sex for one.
When any person is really ready for partnered sex that poses STI and/or pregnancy risks, they also have to be really ready to deal with safer sex and birth control.
Sex is a big part of our adult lives, but people with maturity can keep it in perspective: having sex shouldn’t be more important than the integrity of our closest relationships.
The very first thing I want to say, and want you to try hard to hear, is that you are not abnormal, nor are you some kind of basket case. You’re simply someone healing from a serious injury.
It’s so important to try not to get hung up on the idea that what other people are doing (or not) sexually has any relevance to what we ourselves do or don’t do.