It either hurts or feels like nothing. You don’t know what to do, or what’s wrong, and your partner is handling it really poorly. Here’s some information and advice to the rescue.
There’s no “should” for when and if we feel ready for any kind of sex, or want to engage in any kind of sex. And no one knows better than you when, and if, that time is.
Have a partner who wants to step away from sex with you or take a break? If you’re wondering what to do to change that, the only right answer is nothing at all. We need to always respect a person’s sexual limits and boundaries, whatever their gender.
Navigating sex and sexual relationships after assault can be challenging: how do you deal with a relationship that seemed to facilitate healing at first, but now seems to be standing in the way, especially when the roof over your head seems to require it?
How do you tell a partner that you’re not comfortable with something they want to do, whether you have sexual abuse in your history or not? You tell them you’re not comfortable with something they want to do.
Does vaginal intercourse hurt? Feel like you’re the only one in the whole wide world who doesn’t think it’s the best thing ever? Here’s a reality check and some places to get started to ditch sexual pain and find pleasure instead.
What does it mean to be good at sex? Or, better still, what things tend to make it most likely for people to have sexual lives, experiences and relationships they really enjoy?