The point is that the perfection those suffering from eating disorders are longing for in themselves in most cases is neither physical nor real. We will need to overcome our societal inability to see errors for what they are—an opportunity to learn—if we want to deal with eating disorders.
Do you have to worry that simply by virtue of being a male person with a sexuality, you’ll abuse someone? No. Being a certain sex, having a certain gender or having a sexuality does not mean a person has any kind of innate predilection to abuse.
The accusations against Julian Assange have brought forth a fancy new defense of abusive behavior, which is that condom sabotage isn’t that big a deal. In reality, birth control sabotage is a common and particularly scary form of abuse.