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Four Daughters, Four Moms, Four Sex Talks

How can you tell Mom you’ve become a sexual adult without disappointing her?  How can you ask her for birth control? How can you disclose being sexually active?  And is it okay to use her sex toy eithout asking?

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Because I Am a Man, I feel My Sexuality is Dirty, and Worry I’ll Hurt Someone With It

Do you have to worry that simply by virtue of being a male person with a sexuality, you’ll abuse someone?  No. Being a certain sex, having a certain gender or having a sexuality does not mean a person has any kind of innate predilection to abuse.

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Harassment vs. Flirting: A Double Feature

What’s the difference between flirting and harassment?  How does a person recognize and deal with harassment? How do we make sure we’re not harassing anyone unintentionally?

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What Is Healthy Sexual Development?

Depending on your view, the answer to that question might seem really obvious or very tricky and hazy. However, it’s a phrase and concept that’s bandied about a lot, yet is rarely explained.  A group of Australian researchers finally defined it clearly and holistically.

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Can a Lesbian Have Sex With a Dyke?

Or: How Good Consent & Communication is the Answer to (Almost) Everything for Everyone.

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The Rules of Ooohs and Ahhhs (Hint: there aren’t any)

Are you supposed to moan when having sex? If so, is there a technique to what you are saying or do you just do it?

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Get Real! What Makes Someone Good in Bed?

What does it mean to be good at sex? Or, better still, what things tend to make it most likely for people to have sexual lives, experiences and relationships they really enjoy?

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Get Real! How Long Does it Take to Become a Virgin Again?

Virginity is an intellectual concept, idea, belief, and perhaps most accurately, a word for identity some people use, usually to identify when they or others have not had certain sexual experiences

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Get Real! We Did Everything We Could to Make Things Go Just Right, But it Didn’t

Communication, consent, empathy, and sensitivity are critical to good sexual experiences, no matter your partner.

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This Is My Machismo

It is rare to read about Latino men in the way I have known them. Even stories by Latino men seem to exclude the experiences and relationships I have come to experience and nurture with the Latino men in my life. For this Father’s/Papi’s Day I want to share some of the ways I have come to know “machismo,” the idea of what it means to be a man, the idea of masculinity. I’ll warn you now, this is not going to be similar to what you have read in other places because my machismo comes from a space of love, respect, trust, and acceptance.

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