The point is that the perfection those suffering from eating disorders are longing for in themselves in most cases is neither physical nor real. We will need to overcome our societal inability to see errors for what they are—an opportunity to learn—if we want to deal with eating disorders.
Modesty taught me that my first priority needed to be making sure I wasn’t a “stumbling block” to men. Not being sexually attractive was the most important thing I had to consider when buying clothes, putting them on, maintaining my weight (can’t have things getting tight!), and moving around (can’t wiggle those hips, or let a little knee show). Modesty taught me that what I looked like was what mattered most of all. Not what I thought. Not how I felt. Not what I was capable of doing. Worrying about modesty, and being vigilantnotto be sexy, made me even more obsessed with my looks than the women in short shorts and spray tans I was taught to hate
It’s Veterans Day so I’m reminding myself (and others who need it) that our female vets are in need of gender specific health care upon returning home from combat; Sarah Palin and the Tea Party want less government – unless it has to do with abortion restrictions; a drug manufacturer of breast cancer treatment drugs adds cancer-causing agents to its drugs; and anorexic women face more unplanned pregnancies than do women who don’t suffer from the disorder.