Sexism Is Alive and Well Among ‘Generation Z’


Emily Spangler is a 15-year-old high school student and one of RH Reality Check‘s youth voices.

“Wow, look at that sexy body!”

“She has another boyfriend? What a slut.”

“Dude, go tell her how hot she looks today.”

This sexist language sounds awfully familiar, doesn’t it? It’s used every day, including in schools, public places, and on sidewalks. It’s not only used by disrespectful classmates or cat-callers; it can be used by teachers, family members, and close friends. Even you can be spreading sexism without realizing what messages you’re sending.

My generation, Generation Z—made up of people who were born between the early 1990s and 2010—is so accustomed to everyday sexism that most of us do not even notice when demeaning language is used, let alone call it out. From accepting slut-shaming, promoting degrading music in pop culture, and not addressing street harassment, my generation often overlooks sexism in our society. Although it is easy to overlook sexism, it is not the most moral thing to do.

Let’s start with the widespread acceptance of slut-shaming within my generation. Slut-shaming means shaming or attacking women by making them feel guilty or inferior for their real or presumed sexual behaviors or desires. As a teenager, it is normal to walk down the halls in high school and hear the demeaning word “slut” used to describe a young woman wearing short shorts, as a nickname for someone’s best friend, or to describe the young woman in your math class who has a new boyfriend every week.

The word can be used in many different ways to demean women, but the real question is what exactly constitutes a “slut”? The answer: No one is a slut. Not a single human on this planet. Yes, including that girl your ex-boyfriend cheated on you with during freshman year. Society uses the term “slut” and “whore” to attack women for simply being sexually active, wearing “revealing” clothing, or having sexual behaviors or desires. A woman can have sex with one person or ten people and still be called this sexist term. The fact is, no one should be using it for any purpose. Whether using the actual degrading word or having your actions suggest it, slut-shaming is unacceptable and does not create an environment that embraces equality.

My generation often tends to overlook the true meaning of a “slut” or “whore,” with the words popped into sentences as part of everyday vocabulary usage. But they are hateful and demeaning terms to use to describe someone, their sexual behaviors, or the way they dress. So rather than overlook the practice by ignoring it the next time it is used, call the person out on it. Fighting back against our patriarchal society, including minimizing the use of disempowering language, is one step toward achieving equality.

My generation also tends to overlook sexism by promoting degrading popular music that demeans women in every way possible. Perfect example: “Blurred Lines” by Robin Thicke, T.I., and Pharrell, which was one of the most popular songs on the radio this summer. The catchy tune seems to hide the song’s sexist lyrics. The first few lines of the song shout, “Everybody get up!” which makes you want to get to your feet and dance. But nearly a minute into the song, you start to hear the repeated rape-culture infused lyric “I know you want it,” which should make people feel uncomfortable, as it suggests a sexual act that might not involve consent.

Songs like these are not uncommon. Plus, it’s not the first time misogynist artist Robin Thicke has pitched in on a song that objectifies women. For example, take a look at his past contribution to the less-catchy tune “Pregnant” by Thicke, R. Kelly, Tyrese, and The-Dream. The lyrics include, “Girl you make me wanna get you pregnant,” “She’s more than a mistress enough to handle my business, now put that girl in my kitchen,” and “Put them pills on chill and girl give me my baby.” These lyrics are derogatory to women, treating us as objects who are just baby-makers, not human beings.

Sadly, these are the types of songs that are played on the radio, and many in my generation embrace them as if they are no big deal, no matter how sexist or demeaning they are. Even condoning rape culture can be part of a popular dance song! Music is a part of everyday life and surrounds us everywhere we go. To embrace less degrading songs, or at least acknowledge that the current songs on the radio are sexist, would be another small step toward equality for Generation Z.

In addition to giving slut-shaming and degrading music a free pass, many in my generation also overlook a serious issue that has affected women for generations: street harassment. Street harassment can vary from cat-calling and whistling to honking cars and threatening behavior that puts women’s lives in danger. Across the country, women of all ages are prone to experience street harassment throughout their lives. According to two Stop Street Harassment studies, 99 percent of women respondents said they had experienced street harassment, including honking, whistling, sexist comments, vulgar gestures, and being followed.

My generation often sees street harassment as something women have to deal with every day and accept for what it is. The problem with that is that street harassment is inappropriate. My generation can be the generation that comes to realize how shameful street harassment is and helps to stop it once and for all. For example, we can work with groups aimed at limiting inappropriate public behavior, including Hollaback! and Stop Street Harassment. By not overlooking street harassment and accepting it as the norm, but rather calling it out, we can help pave a path toward equality and appropriate public behavior aimed at women.

Generation Z overlooks slut-shaming, degrading music, and street harassment all too often. These practices should not be tolerated in today’s society, as they are demeaning to women and are an encumbrance to achieving equality. It would be a step in the right direction for our society if we understood that no one should ever slut-shame, if we discouraged degrading music that promotes rape culture, and if we put an end to street harassment. Our generation is the future, and for young men and women to be guaranteed equal opportunities in the world we must start taking a stand to end these demeaning practices.

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  • colleen2

    The GOP and the religious right lead the WAY on demeaning and abusing women both socially and politically. Let’s end the demeaning practices of of rape and religiously justified political bigotry and hatred first. The major conservative political party just shut down the federal government in an effort to force women to comply with the worst of Catholic dogma by ceding those decisions to a woman’s employer. Now there is harassment of a GIGANTIC scale.Being forced to live the hideous life the religious right dictates for women is far, far worse tan dealing with cat calls in the street.

    • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

      Therein lies the crunch. As colleen says the bigoted behaviour is institutionalized. As long as those who cause the problem hold all the power things will not change.

    • Arekushieru

      Actually, wrong. For victims of abuse/rape, ‘catcalls’ can be EXTREMELY triggering. And, even for someone like me, who has been diagnosed with a learning disability akin to autism, it’s next to IMPOSSIBLE for me to ignore such events, without triggering an episode of extreme anxiety. I say, why not do BOTH? After all, we can’t end rape culture without ending rape, true, but the reverse, ending rape without ending rape culture, *also* holds true.

      • colleen2

        I am so sorry. I had not intended to be dismissive of reactions to street harassment and would never suggest that ignoring the men who do that is a good plan. But this IS institutionalized behavior and I believe that understanding it AS institutionalized and, to a large degree, socially acceptable behavior, will help us to end it.

        • Arekushieru

          Colleen, I’ve seen your posts on here, and none of them have ever been disrespectful. So I was pretty sure you hadn’t meant that. The capital letters are just meant to emphasize the words I capitalized, nothing more. I apologize for possibly making you feel that way, though, because that was NOT my intent. :)

          • colleen2

            sometimes when I reread what I post it sounds dismissive because I have failed to acknowledge the other persons point sufficiently while trying to make my own. Really, you have nothing to apologize for.

            I will say that I was once walking down Oxford street in Sydney when a guy said, “How’s your cunt, baby?” I walked on 3 steps, realized what he had just said, turned around and got up in his face. I made him look at himself in a shop window and asked why ANY woman would be attracted to him? I kept yelling for several minutes until he apologized. I doubt he ever did that to a woman again. I don’t recommend this if you don’t feel safe but I found it oddly liberating.

          • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

            Myself I would never blame you for doing that. it would hard for me not to, or worse.

        • MaiaDoe

          You are right, but I think that pop culture and acceptance of cat calling etc. can be more serious than it seems.
          For example, date rape. First, the woman says “no”, the man laughs in “I know you want it” way and pretends he does not understand is real “no” and not just “oh no, you need to beg a bit more darling”… and this is the behaviour she knows from music videos, and it’s totally socially acceptable, and the guy is just right guy, and it’s her fault, she’s the weird girl who is not horny. So she shouldn’t scream, because… the guy is doing nothing wrong, and he would get in unnecessary problems if someone heard her, she needs to explain it politely (remember, it’s her fault!).
          She did not scream, she did not hit me, it wasn’t rape, she did not say “yes”, and she said “no”, but when I asked her for the tenth time she said nothing, and then I started taking her clothes of, and she was silent, so that was okay I guess.
          Once I got the morning after pill for someone who was underage, and lectured her at how she should say “no” if there is a lack of condoms, and she said: “I said NO several times, but too silently, he did not hear me.”
          When I was teen myself, I kicked my fathers car to set the alarm off, because guy who walked with me home in the evening (“so nothing bad happens to you” – I did not like it, but did not know how to dismiss it) wanted a blowjob for taking the pain of walking a mile in “wrong” direction. And you know what? I did not know what to say BECAUSE I DID NOT WANT TO BE RUDE.

          • colleen2

            I was just in a discussion with a pack of young (I hope) men who were complaining about the sex offender lists and the fact that date rape is illegal. I believe that we are doing a terrible job of raising young men and that the Stubenville case was not an anomaly. It is my hope that the brave young women and men who videotaped and leaked video evidence of the full disgusting nature of their classmate’s sociopathy will continue to use this method to shame the adults, the abstinence only sex ‘educators’ and law enforcement into doing their fucking jobs.

      • HeilMary1

        I get PTSD attacks from insulting cat calls.

        • Arekushieru

          Marked your post up because I’m glad you understand where I’m coming from. NOT because I ‘like’ your post. Ugh, that’s just HATEFUL. :(

          • HeilMary1

            We have a male cat call society that gets egged on by misogynist religions. Some of my worst insults come from religious men and women who insist I’m guilty of all kinds of sins just for not meeting THEIR natural beauty standards.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Like liberal rappers?

            It’s true some misogynist religions are very insulting, but you can find liberals who are the same trash.

          • Arekushieru

            I don’t know who would be called a conservative rapper let alone a liberal one…?

        • cvxxx

          When I was in High school My Spanish teacher was from Italy and the girls their found that attention positive. In the US it is a negative. Each culture has differences it seems.

          • Arekushieru

            It’s not positive, anywhere. It feeds into the culture that women are the sex class.

          • cvxxx

            What is never explained is why being heterosexual is being attacked. Why choosing to have sex for women is attacked (cross purpose?). The paternal culture that I (the great and mighty OZ) force a society where normal human interactions must be controlled.

        • Dahlia Addams

          I empathize. I don’t like walking anywhere alone, day or night, because of that and more.

    • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

      I had missed this example of profound stupidity.

      “The GOP and the religious right lead the WAY on demeaning and abusing women both socially and politically.”

      The GOP and the religious right are now in charge of producing extreme porn? Who knew! no one can demean more women (and men), and pervert and trash sexuality more than liberals.

      • Arekushieru

        Nope, it’s not liberals. It’s the religious right and the GOP who support rape culture and the view of women as nothing more than the sex class. Liberals, for the most part, oppose the structures that give rise to porn. The GOP and religious right support them, then condemn the WOMEN when they actually believe the hype and bullshit lines the GOP and religious right spew. I’m so sorry, when did this brainwashing start? From when you were a baby?

        • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

          hahahah

          “Liberals, for the most part, oppose the structures that give rise to porn.”

          hahahahahhah too funny how out of touch you are with reality!

          Liberals like who? Larry Flynt? Frank Lombard? Madonna? Barney Frank? Basically the ENTIRE liberal porn industry?

          And you think I have been brainwashed? LOL

          • Arekushieru

            They are not the porn industry. Seriously, you need to look up words before using them, ‘sweetie’, or you’ll just make yourself look even MORE foolish. Oopsies? And that isn’t a LIBERAL position that they’ve ‘fallen’ for. THAT was my point. Do learn to read more carefully, too, next time, LITTLE GIRL.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            What? Larry Flynt isn’t a liberal? Madonna isn’t a liberal? Barney Frank is now part of the Westoro Baptist Church? LOL

            Come now, toosie icecream, your “point” is sheer nonsense. Liberals are junk of people who largely promote and act out the degradation of sex, relationships and sexuality in every sphere possible, ESPECIALLY in PORN and entertainment. You can’t find a trashier example of culture than what liberals produce in terms of porn – and their millions of liberal consumers

          • Arekushieru

            See, reading comprehension is NOT your strong point IS it? When conservatives treat men like studs, and women as their sexually available commodities and then blame them for it, that IS misogyny. And not even liberals can escape it. THAT was my point. OOPS, did your head go ‘splodey’ from LOGIC, yet.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            hahahah so it’s conservatives who are to blame for the trashy way that liberals think?

            If a liberal treats women and sex as trash and hates conservatives, it’s all the fault of conservatives?

            You’re really good with logic!

          • fiona64

            Kindly provide citations for Madonna, Barney Frank, and Frank Lombard producing pornography.

            I’ll wait.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            And why are you interested in knowing if these three slutty, crappy liberals produce porn?
            Please state your strawman in a full sentence.

          • fiona64

            You’re the one who made the accusation, dimwit. The burden of proof is on you.

            Now, go play outside until supper is ready.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Which accusation did I make, tootsie roll?

          • fiona64

            Here are your words:

            Liberals like who? Larry Flynt? Frank Lombard? Madonna? Barney Frank? Basically the ENTIRE liberal porn industry?

            You accused all of these people of making porn — oh, and of being promiscuous (slutty, crappy liberals). I want to see your source.

            Otherwise, you can admit that you’re just a stupid little troll, dearie.

            You’re amusing, I’ll give you that.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Do you see the word “making porn” in my sentence? It’s not there, twinkie pie.

            what a stupid little middle-aged troll you are – and with such a slutty worldview.

          • AustinBamBam

            Funny watching you get owned by fiona64. LOL

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Troll fest! I think I hit a nerve with BamBam :-) Is that why you are following me around? Can’t stop thinking about me? LOL

          • AustinBamBam

            I’m enjoying watching you get owned. No matter how much you scream otherwise, we can all see your comments. Duh! Hint: the porn industry makes porn

          • fiona64

            You’re a sad little child. Does Mummy know you’re playing with the computer?

      • colleen

        The GOP and the religious right are now in charge of producing extreme porn?

        are you hallucinating?

    • cvxxx

      I almost can’t believe I agree with you. But you are correct. It is about control of people .

  • Melooley

    I can only wish more high school students were as insightful and eloquent as Emily Spangler. I love RHRealityCheck for publishing articles from a whole range of diverse authors.

    • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

      Emily is more intelligent in high school than some I called Teachers when I was still in school.

  • Cade DeBois

    Not long ago I had to explain to a GenZer why “bitch”, “stop being a bitch” and “to bitch about something” where sexist and misogynist. His claim was that they were so common among his peers that they lost their sexist impact, yet all I had to do was deconstruct his own usage of it, which showed he used “to bitch”/”stop being a bitch” in ways that were to imply either a woman’s complaint wasn’t invalid or a man with a complaint was acting like a woman and thus made his complaint invalid. He continued to resist, insisting he just meant someone was griping about something and he wasn’t a sexist. I said “If you mean to say someone is griping then say “So-and-so is griping”. And I didn’t say you were a sexist. I am simply pointing out the patterns of sexist thinking in your usage of this term that you’re clearly not aware of.” I took his behavior as suggsting he came frm anenvironemnt where this was very much rdinary and no one really thinks about using other vocabulary to express their thoughts and feelings–their default term for someone complaining in a way they personally don’t like or having an unpopular opinion is “bitch”,

  • expect_resistance

    Great article. I’m sorry sexism is still alive and well. As a Gen Xr I hoped sexism would have been diminished somewhat by now, as I’m sure with generations before me did.

    I think Robin Thicke is a complete piece of ass-shat. Besides his sexist pro-date-rape song, “Blurred Lines” is a rip off of Marvin Gaye’s song, “Got To Give It Up.”

    I found the best antidote to his sexist crap is to listen to the Law Revue Girls parody of Blurred Lines, called Defined Lines. Great song. Much better than Thicke’s version.

    “What you see on TV / Doesn’t speak equality / It’s straight up misogyny.”

    • jovan1984

      A lot of it is also because of government too. Conservatives are indoctrinating Gen Z with heavy doses of misogyny.

  • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

    Yes very true but not so new. To show my own perspecitive I was in high school when Bruce willis still had hair. It was exactly the same. All of the “7 words you must never say on TV” that George Carlin made famous I didn’t hear on tv, I heard them daily at school.

    Also being a guy I can say this for certain. Guys predomenantly (sorry for my spelling!) are huge sluts themselves (perhaps even more so). I’ve not heard any women bragging about their exploits (real or imagined) but I’ve heard plenty of guys doing the same (still do hear it from so called adults).

    I’ve realized that sexism is based on on attitudes more than anything.

    • XKCD

      Yeah, as someone in her early 20′s, I see a lot of people of all ages talk about what’s wrong with “young teens these days” and most of it could have applied to teens ten years ago just as easily.

      The only thing that worries me is that teens *are* going to see the nude Blurred Lines video, explicit Nicki Minaj lyrics, etc, and I don’t think mainstream pop had anything quite like that in 2003 (just think – the Madonna/Britney kiss was controversial then!)

      • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

        something thats rarely pointed out but 2 of the biggest sluts are found in the bible over 2000 years ago and both are men.

        • cvxxx

          These are silly complaints. The real problems arise in that females are not allowed the same entitlement to sexual pleasure as it is assumed that men are. Actually I remember a book that had the anti-sex league as an organization.

      • MaiaDoe

        I think that, when it comes to bullying for example, they just weren’t affected while in school, so they don’t remember. Lot of my friends – who are in mid to late twenties – talk about “kids these days” who abuse someone for not having a smartphone or wearing “cheap” clothes.
        But it’s been here in the nineties! Okay, smartphones did not exist, but there were different things. Television. Our family did not have one. When kids talked about TV shows, I had nothing to say, and they noticed and started mocking me about that. And? Nowadays people say “but that’s different, not having a TV was really weird, because everyone had it!”. Everyone = me and my friends.
        Year 2033? “Hey, but that was different, not having a smartphone in 2013 was really weird, everyone had them back then”.

  • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

    Yes, what’s called gaming “culture” something I’m a part of even in my 40′s is completely obnoxious, and its not just XBL either, PSN & other gaming mediums are just as bad. Just look at the perv mentality rampant on playstation home, worse yet few deal with it & sony just sweeps it under the rug and pretends it doesn’t exist (more often the victims who report it are permanbanned while offenders go free)

  • Arekushieru

    I’m 37, Fiona, and I still hold the V-Card. Of course, I’m also an Ace (asexual, for those who don’t know what that means), yet the bullying I endured was QUITE sexual in nature..

    • HeilMary1

      Bullying of any kind is always bad.

  • RethinkThePink

    I think that’s her point. No, it’s not new. But we’d hope that it would have evolved since 1981.

  • MaiaDoe

    I’m kinda fascinated by the clothing in music videos, and actually on celebs generally. I can’t help but think “either she’s really cold, or he’s really hot”.
    The bad thing is that most people don’t even notice. One person is fully clothed, even wearing a jacket, the person next to them is nearly naked, but hey, that’s just normal.

    I think it’s perceived as obligation. Well, if you look attractive. You should show your body, so men can look, right?
    When I encountered street harassment, it was mostly in “hey, girl, I don’t like you!”, but in a sense targeted toward clothes (and other things I can change easily). I’m just the tall and skinny person with reasonable face and nice hair, so I’m not entitled to wearing one piece sporty swimsuit, or loosely fitting jeans and men’s T-shirt. I actually encountered women (and I mean women over twenty, not teenagers!) who told me quite angrily that if they had my body, they would wear short dresses all the time. They seemed really offended, they actually reminded me infertile women who attack women who had abortion based on “I would be so lucky if it was me, and she does not appreciate it!”.

    I have nothing against revealing clothing, I just don’t like wearing it myself. But the person who wears it should wear because that’s how they feel good… and be reasonable about weather (or temperature in air conditioned buildings). Well, it’s not only about “sexy” looks. So often I see women who wear improper shoes or clothes in winter, so they won’t look “ugly” (I live in Europe, so there is comparatively quite a lot of walking, on usual workday I have to spend nearly one hour outside).

    • cvxxx

      So many women hate other women.

  • K.V.

    I read your article and I thought you had some good points about how people need to take responsibility for their sexuality and not use their sexuality to harm others. You’re right, it’s not okay to have sex without your partner’s consent or to use people for sex. However, you lost me when you said that homosexuality was perverted- and for the record, I’m as straight as a ruler.

  • jovan1984

    A major reason that percentage is as high as it is, is because of clinic harassment that women face from anti-choicers. And sadly, that kind of street harassment has been legalized by the federal courts, including the Supreme Court.

    The local governments tried to clamp down on this kind of street harassment and yet, the anti-choicers complained about the governments “infringing” on their First Amendment rights.

    In fact, a decision is expected later on in this term over a Massachusetts state law that requires a 35-foot buffer zone around all clinics, something that was originally planned after the 1994 terrorist attack at a Planned Parenthood in Brookline.

    I think that the buffer zone around abortion clinics should be one mile.

  • jcts57

    Monotheistic prudery masquerading as wholesomeness. How innovative.

    • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

      Your comment is what happens when someone has no idea what the words mono, theistic or masquerade mean. Oh, and prudery as well.

      • jcts57

        Actually, Alessandra, I know perfectly well what all three words mean (and all the others as well, don’tcha know), and used them sufficiently well. But your attempt at a clever, acerbically witty response was valiant, I’ll give you that.

        • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

          Ranting incoherently about monotheistic, prudery, and masquerades is now “sufficiently good” use of these words? LOL

          • blinkblink

            Alessandra she wrote two sentences. You clearly don’t know the meaning of the word rant do you? Please provide analysis of why she doesn’t know the meaning of the words she’s using.
            I’m genuinely intrigued!

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            BB, are you really intrigued? Let’s feed your trolling. Since you are running away from responding to all my other points, you can try this one. Provide your definition of all four words in question: mono, theistic, masquerade, and prudery. jcts57 is too small minded to do so. Let’s see if you are capable.

          • blinkblink

            bahahaha, can so easily picture you spluttering with rage as you bang out your hate into your computer.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Asking you for definitions of words is “hate”? You have fantasies that I am spluttering with rage? LOL Whatever for? Replying to a troll who is running away from defining a few words? You certainly overestimate your trolling ability and effects!

            Are you on meds?

          • blinkblink

            Ok lady this has become to childish and boring now. Over and out my little woman and homosexual hating woman. I hope we do not meet again.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            You’ve been reported as offensive. Learn to have manners next time…

          • fiona64

            So have you.

          • fiona64

            Actually, I have a vision of an angry, red-faced toddler stamping her Mary Jane-clad foot.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Project much?

  • Dahlia Addams

    So you and your clan get to determine what is and is not “slutty (or similar)” and what is and is not wholesome? Man, that’s rad… What’s it like up there on that hypocritical pedestal of yours?

    • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

      Yes, that is right. People need to determine what is and what is not slutty – it’s just not you who gets to do so. And what a poor job you’ve done so far. My thinking on the issue is quite “rad,” that’s true. It’s both cool and radical.

      Lastly, I don’t see anything hypocritical about it. In fact, I don’ think you even know what the word “hypocritical” means. Unless your favorite thing to do in life is to project your own faults on others.

      • Dahlia Addams

        Awh, sweetie… this makes me sad. You see, there is no way any of us, no matter how rational, logical, or compassionate we are, can get through the thick, closed skulls of you and your clan.

        It’s cute to try and suggest that we don’t know the meaning of words, but hypocritical is the behavior you are displaying by saying that YOU get to judge others by their behaviors, and ONLY YOU and the people that agree with you are correct. Do you not see the hypocrisy in that? The arrogance hasn’t even been mentioned…but to pretend that you are the moral authority and know best is what puts those traits on blast.

        “People need to determine what is and what is not slutty – it’s not just you who gets to do so.” Duh, Alessandra. It’s subjective. The problem is, we are ONLY people. HUMAN. That means prone to error, meaning we probably shouldn’t be trying to play judge and jury, hm? If you want to act pious, remember, “let the one who is without sin cast the first stone.” Pretty sure that’s not you, my dear, and it isn’t any other person alive, either.

        What is “radical” about you holding the same beliefs towards women and their rights as the men from the 30′s and before?

        • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

          Tootsie roll – I know you love to fantasize that I have a clan, but it would be better if you left your middle school fantasies about me out of your replies.
          Twinkie pie – here’s the deal: what you don’t appear to realize is that I do get to judge others by their behaviors. Not only behaviors, I get to judge and analyze what they have in their minds: thoughts, attitudes, ideology, etc.

          And as long as you don’t prove me incorrect, why shouldn’t I think that I am correct? There is no hypocrisy above anywhere – unless you don’t know what hypocrisy means.

          Tootsie roll – are you suggesting we abolish the justice system? No more juries, no more judges? It seems to me like you hate accountability. What you want is to be completely irresponsible, do any harm that you please and not have anyone judge you. That way you don’t feel any guilt.

          Sorry, but people who have ethics like myself have a vision for society where irresponsible, trashy, and harmful attitudes and behaviors are not wanted. And they are judged and criticized. Deal.

          • Dahlia Addams

            Mhm… refer to the previous statements. Thick skulls…
            “And they are judged and criticized.” Hm…sound like anyone else we know?

            Done with this conversation, as it’s pointless to try and get you to see anything beyond your sphincter.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            In other words, your incapacity to counter-argue is showing.

          • Dahlia Addams

            Oh, absolutely. You’ve really shown me! You’re right about everything!

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            :-)

          • blinkblink

            You’re too funny Sandy, stop repeating my arguments in response to me and others! Love how you’re doing it where they don’t even make sense.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Right over your little head…

          • blinkblink

            Only in your mind, not in anyone else’s.

          • blinkblink

            Please can we see some of your analytical powers in action? Also are you seriously suggesting that by disagreeing with you we don’t believe in the justice system? Or do you just think that your won opinions carry the same weight as a judge’s?

  • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

    Actually you are exactly what is wrong with modern society. Decisions on what is “good” sexual behavior need to be based on responsibility, ethics, and knowledge – something you clearly don’t have.

    In case it’s news to you, people have the right to tell others how to do everything. That’s life in society. The only reason you wouldn’t want to examine other people’s sex lives and sexual psychology is to run away from how perverted, harmful, or irresponsible they are.

    There will always be a need to think about everything in life in a moral way, not just sexuality. The only way you avoid doing harm is by being moral.

    I’m sorry the very accessible English in my blog post was way above your reading level. But I don’t write for middle schoolers, it’s true. It looks like you’re the one who can use a lot more reading! You could start with comics, but even comics might be a challenge for you. Maybe it’s just best you leave your head in your retarded porn all the time…

    • blinkblink

      Ahahaha, your comment really did make me laugh out loud for a moment there my dear. I particularly love how in all your replies you attack the English comprehension of anyone who dares challenge your horrible attitudes! I’m guessing it’s just because you’re incapable of an intellectually valid response …. In answer to your little speech about society, you clearly betray a) your lack of awareness of the fact that you and you alone do not represent society because b) as members of society in a liberal democracy we ourselves have the possibility to shape society’s values through discussion such as this-(in this process nasty individual’s like yourself tend to discredit the “values” you espouse) and c) your lack of education/ consideration on the philosophical value of societal values in general- have a look at this guy called Foucault, he could really help you broaden your mind. I genuinely feel sorry for you that you’re so small minded and full of hate.

      • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

        I’m still waiting for any sign of English comprehension from a few of the people here, like yourself. As we can see, it’s not happening.

        Someone like you who says I’m incoherent and then completely fails to show any incoherence in what I wrote, obviously is too much of a tool to know what “incoherent” means.

        So I guess if we wanted an idiot to talk about Foucault, you’ll always be there. It’s true you are very good at being nasty and a tool and to ramble on incoherently -all the while thinking you’re so clever – LOL this only goes to show what retarded thinking you believe constitutes an “intellectually valid response.”

        I guess you haven’t finished projecting a long list of stupid thoughts into my mind, the thoughts I don’t have but you fantasize I do.

        • blinkblink

          And yet you still haven’t responded to anyone’s points, its just personal attack after personal attack. I really do wonder what goes on in your head actually, if only you could articulate it.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Oh so now you’re lying about all the points I made right above your comment and on my blog!
            I’m still waiting for you to explain in what way what I wrote is
            incoherent.
            I guess you’re too focused on saying I’m not responding, when it’s exactly what you are doing.
            Let’s see you “respond” – heh

          • blinkblink

            My we do the love the strong words don’t we. You haven’t made any points above; insults and blanket statements do not an argument make. Please provide some analysis to support your pronouncements regarding other people’s language skills. Would really love to see what the dictionary of Alessandra looks like. Regarding your blog, I found the lack of structure, fabricated vocabulary and one sidedness of your polemic objectionable. And I really think its beyond the pale that you’re referring to me as nasty after calling a woman and all her female family members sluts with no morals.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Oh running away from responding to all the points I made by lying that I didn’t make any points! obviously you’re too much of a troll to respond.

            And you still haven’t specified what exactly that I wrote is incoherent. You’re just here to troll and spew out insults. That’s obviously the only thing a nasty, sexist, stupid liberal bigot like yourself is capable of.
            Not everyone has your slutty mind and we’ll be happy to expose how trashy it is, along with anyone else that is so crappy that’s all the women in their family amount to: sluts. People with a slutty mind about sex and sexuality are incapable of understanding what feminism is.

          • blinkblink

            I suggest you either need to re read our conversation ot look up the meaning of the word troll if you honestly believe the nonsense you are writing. Also if you continue to repeat the words slutty, crappy or retarded I’m going to report you to the moderator for anti social behaviour. Wr are done here, I’m not going to discuss further with a child.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Oh the troll who does nothing but insult others wants to report me for “anti social behavior”?Why don’t you begin by reporting yourself for your anti social, ignorant, insulting, and bigoted comments and behavior?

            It there anything more retarded than a troll like yourself insulting others, writing crappy gibberish, and promoting a slutty attitude towards sex and then getting all huffed up when you are called on it?

          • blinkblink

            Your lack of self awareness is truly breathtaking lady. A marvel to behold. You do such a great job of making yourself look like a total idiot, noone needs to add anything here!

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Oh more insults from our little troll… your views don’t stand up to scrutiny, you ran away fast and clear from engaging with the points I made
            You think no one else is noticing?

          • blinkblink

            Look up the definition of troll lady. I’ve read your other comments and you are the definition of a troll. Your offensive language has been reported.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            You’ve reported the truth as offensive language? LOL
            Everyone must lie about the truth of your views or they get reported?
            Speech crimes!

            Isn’t it amusing how a troll like you, who calls me all kinds of insults, insists on the trolling and the reporting!

          • blinkblink

            Funny how your comments got deleted but ours didn’t.

        • fiona64

          What a self-center, and yet vapid, little child you are.

    • Dahlia Addams

      How is it irresponsible or unethical to practice safe, consensual sex with the person or people of my choosing? Why do you feel you get to decide what is and isn’t?

      “People have the right to tell others how to do everything. That’s life in society.” Uhm, WHAT? You have the right to say what you’d like, yes, and I have the right to tell you where to put your opinions. “The only reason you wouldn’t want to examine other people’s sex lives and sexual psychology is to run away from how perverted, harmful, or irresponsible they are.” …Are you kidding me? It can’t possibly be because if it isn’t harming anyone, it’s none of our business? You don’t think it’s perverse of you to be trying to examine other people’s sex lives?

      What’s funny, here, is that I’m sure we share similar views on pornography. I do not like it, and there are many reasons for that. I think it’s helped desensitize many viewers. Guess what, though? That just means I don’t view it. It doesn’t mean we get to tell others how to live their lives. Don’t want to associate with people that watch it? Then don’t! You have choices, and so does everyone else. Once again, hypocrisy – You have a right to do or not do what you want. So does everyone else. Grow up and deal with that, because THAT is society, THAT is life.

  • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

    (Feminism, in other words) was taught me through the exemplary words and deeds of my mother and two elder sisters
    ===============
    By thinking and behaving like sluts? What teaching!

    • jcts57

      You stay classy, Alessandra.

      • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

        Thanks, but this is a post about promoting sluts and a slutty way of thinking. Is that your mother’s kind of feminism? Is that what she taught you? It’s what I understood from your comment. Feel free to clarify otherwise.

        • jcts57

          Careful, Sandy, your misogyny is showing.
          We’re done here Sister Mary Margaret.
          You have the last word. But I won’t read it.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            “My” misogyny? And what misogyny would that be?

            Your mother and your sisters all thinking and behaving like sl*ts and
            teaching you to be a sl*t, along with your father, I imagine, is a much
            greater example of misogyny, I would think.

          • blinkblink

            Oh and one last thing Allessandra, on behalf of the lady above upon whom you have launched a despicable personal attack, I would like to congratulate you on exposing yourself as a nasty, sexist, self righteous tool. Well done!

          • Arekushieru

            Nope, their father who taught them that they could have the same sexual freedoms as MEN can, is not misogynistic. YOUR father who taught you that you must be virgin until married and that your brothers/husband etc… can use whatever woman is available without fear of punishment, because the ‘slutty’ women will be RIGHTEOUSLY PUNISHED, IS misogynistic. OOOOOPS.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Because men who see sex in a trashy and degrading way are to be role models for women? Only for slutty, stupid women, that’s true.

            a father who teaches girls to sleep with endless series of men and women they didn’t even know, in the most degrading and dysfunctional way, is not misogynist? LOL

            Wanting your daughter to be a stupid, trashy, sexual commodity is not misogynist?

            People in this blog have no idea what most of the words they use actually mean.

          • Arekushieru

            Nope, I DO know what they mean. Those who oppose equality, like YOU, are misogynists. Those who do not, are NOT. OOOOPS. YOU are the ones who want women to be sexual commodities, NOT us. If you oppose equality, after all, YOU are the ones that want these women to be seen in a sexual, trashy and degrading way, and are wanting to blame THEM for it. A father who teaches girls like you that men can see you in those trashy, degrading, sexual commodity ways, whilst men never CAN be viewed like that and can never be BLAMED for viewing you that way ARE misogynists. You see, you are describing exactly what YOUR misogynist father is doing to YOU. SFS.

          • blinkblink

            Alessandra once again shows her true colours. No more to be said.

        • Arekushieru

          I don’t see HIM promoting ‘sluts’ and ‘sluttiness’, sweetie, in any way. He was talking about sexual equality. The fact that you equate that with ‘sluttiness’ really does show what a misogynist you are. Because, that means, you OPPOSE sexual equality. THAT is what makes women ‘slutty’. OOOOOOOPPPS.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Equality to trash of men, you mean. First, contrary to your brainwashed ideas, there are men who don’t have your trashy mind about sex or sexuality or relationships.

            The fact that you don’t even know there are men with quality, who have a respectful and wholesome view of sex and women, and the fact that you think all men think and behave like pigs shows that you are not really in a position to talk about misogyny.

            “Sexual equality” to a pig? hahaha Yes, that is correct, I definitely oppose that, as you can see.

          • Arekushieru

            I DO know there are. James, below me, is one. However, the men YOU know do NOT view women that way. They DO have the trashy minds about women and sex. OOPS???? You think all men SHOULD think that way, so WHO should not be talking about misogyny? That’s right, misogynists like YOU.

          • cvxxx

            Define your terms.

            Trash men?

            a respectful and wholesome view of sex and women?
            What do you mean?

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            It seems your moderator doesn’t want you to know what I think is a wholesome sexuality! my answer was deleted

          • blinkblink

            Because we reported your offensive posts. As you can see ours were not deemed offensive.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Difference of opinion is certainly offensive around here! Critiquing a liberal moron is an offense!!!

          • blinkblink

            Can you not read? Have a look at the shit you post.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            What offensive tone and vocabulary! Let’s see if you’ll get deleted… I think you won’t… :-)

          • blinkblink

            Of course I won’t, because from an objective point of view I have not written anything offensive.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Objective!!! hahahhah and here I am feeding an objective troll… but you do provide so many laughs

          • cvxxx

            Can you define it without attacking someone?

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            What attack was there in my reply?

          • cvxxx

            Don’t know but from other comments it might have been.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            In short, discussion censored by liberals who cannot tolerate criticism.

    • Arekushieru

      Yep, call men studly for getting all the sex they want, tell women their only purpose is to be sexually available to men, then blame them for when they actually believe the bullshit they were brainwashed with. You are misogyny in ACTION, sweetie.

      • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

        Where did I call men studly, tootsie roll? I think your meds are interfering with your ability to read!

        And you are misogyny and sluttiness in action, twinkie pie

        • Arekushieru

          Sorry, I’m asexual, ignorant little girl. I hold the v-card. OOPS. And I don’t take meds. But not only are you a bigot against WOMEN but a bigot against those with mental health issues. I have a low form of depression, so you are bigoted against me TWICE. KEEEEP proving my point, little girl.

          You don’t have to. You don’t have to say anything at all, in order to prove my point. Too bad you never learned logic, little girl.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Hah – if you can’t note the difference between what I actually write and your irrational imagination about what I write, maybe you should consider taking meds!

            I guess if you think you are proving your point by lying about what I write, you shouldn’t really bring up the issue of logic…

          • Arekushieru

            Um, I’m not imagining you writing ANYTHING. I’m talking about what you’re NOT writing? DERP. LOGIC, people like you should not bring it up, by your OWN logic. OOPS.

            Um, more bigotry. Wow, keep proving my point!

          • blinkblink

            She’s great at that :)

          • fiona64

            Your words are very clear, dear.

            Now, why don’t you go to your room and play with your dolls while the adults talk?

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Talk and behave like sluts, you mean?

          • fiona64

            Sweetie, I’m a middle-aged married woman, and my son is probably older than you are.

            You’re absurd.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            So you are a middle-aged woman who thinks women should think and behave like sluts?

            And you think other people are absurd? No self awareness is like that.

          • fiona64

            You know, for a woman who claims to have such a wholesome view of sex, you have an awfully dirty mind.

            Why are you so obsessed with what other people may or may not get up to?

            Jealous, maybe?

          • fiona64

            To Alessandra, in moderation:

            Actually, unlike you, I don’t give a moment’s thought to other people’s sex lives. It’s none of my business; unlike you, I’m not prurient.

            BTW, your blog is just as laughable as your posts here. The only thing missing from your wild accusations about what people get up to is you falling into a fit and announcing that the spectre of Goody Nurse flew in through the window, sat on your chest, and said that she poisoned Goodman Johnson’s sheep.

          • blinkblink

            Let’s add the disabled to long list of people Alessandra hates.

    • fiona64

      That’s just the kind of manners and discourse that I’ve come to expect from a self-proclaimed conservative …

      You stay classy, sweetie. No, really.

  • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

    Great article Emily! I definitely agree that, unfortunately, we’re
    seeing a lot of sexist popular culture around in the last few years to
    the point that it has become the norm and people don’t even think to
    call it out.

    ===============

    Because having a perverted mind about women goes hand in hand with
    normalizing homosexuality, promiscuity, hookups, destroying marriage…

    There is nothing good about normalizing homosexuality – and it’s much
    more a reflection of a sexist and harmful liberal ideology on sexuality
    than any good intent.

    • Arekushieru

      No, sexism is privileging men for one type of behaviour while punishing women for the same behaviour. Which is EXACTLY what YOU do.

      • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

        Right! that’s why if men pimp women and are privileged and then women pimp women and are punished, the solution is for women to pimp women without any punishment!

        How stupid can people get?

        • blinkblink

          Again I’m blown away by the your amazing ability to go off an meaningless tangent.

          • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

            Project much?

          • blinkblink

            You give such stupid come backs, if you weren’t so offensive I’d feel sorry for you.

      • cvxxx

        Not sexism by hypocrisy.

  • Arekushieru

    Obtw, Carla, here….

  • Arekushieru

    Oh, right, because there was no divorce before homosexuality was normalized. There was no promiscuity or hookups before then, either. Wow, you really are ignorant and naive aren’t you?

    • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

      I don’t think as ignorant as you. When I said “destruction of marriage,” I wasn’t referring to divorce, but to making marriage the cheap kind of relationship that stupid homosexuals made it. But even if we think about divorce, no, there was very little divorce before the 60s.

      Promiscuity was also very different, and so were hookups. In fact, if you go back some decades there was not a “date rape” problem as it exists today thanks to the garbage of liberals and their trashy view of sex. There were incidents of rape, but not like today.
      You clearly know very little about how things were for past generations.

      • AustinBamBam

        All you’ve proven is that you’re an anti-gay bigot. Congratulations!!

        • http://alessandrareflections.wordpress.com/ Alessandra

          And you’ve proven that you’re an ignorant anti-socon bigot. Congratulations!

          • AustinBamBam

            I don’t even know what anti-socon means, so how can I be against it? LOL!!

          • blinkblink

            Shes great at discrediting herself :)

          • blinkblink

            Please speak English Alessandra, most of are unfamiliar with your marginal politics and fabricated vocabulary.

    • blinkblink

      Shes just blinded by bigoted ideology. And constrained by her inability to think logically.

  • Arekushieru

    While giving men a free pass? Um, no, that’s sexism and treating women as mere sexual objects for MEN to enjoy. So wholesome.

  • cvxxx

    It is trying to force women and men into behavior someone else want them to exhibit. Each individual has the right to choose the sexual behavior they enjoy.