Better Birth Control for Men: 8 Promising Possibilities


Safe, effective birth control for men is long overdue. Consider a tale of two siblings:

When Mary hit middle school, she began having such painful periods that her father once called the paramedics, thinking she had a ruptured appendix. But at age 14, she got a state-of-the-art hormonal intrauterine device (IUD) that cured her terrible monthly cramps. Over time, the IUD not only would virtually eradicate her bleeding and pain, but would also provide top-tier contraception for up to seven years. Once Mary became sexually active, her annual pregnancy risk would be around 1 in 700. By contrast, Mary’s college-age brother, who was relying on condoms (with an annual pregnancy risk of 1 in 5), had to share the emotional and monetary burden of an unwanted pregnancy and abortion.

No parent wants a son depending on the young women he dates to prevent a surprise pregnancy, but the options stink. As one mother of three boys put it:

Every day teens are having sexual relations, and the method of birth control is either left to the girl (most of which aren’t on anything because they don’t want their parents to know), condoms (which are horribly unreliable, especially in the hands of teens), or most often nothing. If parents were more involved and more teens had access to new methods of contraception … more kids would have the ability to make a future. Boys need that option as much as girls.

Over the past 50 years, birth control for women has been refined to the point that there are now dozens of alternatives that are far safer than pregnancy, many of which have added benefits like reducing menstrual symptoms, acne, or even the risk of cancer. The array includes three kinds of long-acting “fit and forget” contraceptives that are over 20 times better than the familiar “pill” but allow a quick return to normal fertility. But, after all this time, men are still stuck choosing between two century-old choices: condoms and vasectomies.

Don’t get me wrong—condoms are far better than nothing. They are the best thing we have for reducing sexually transmitted diseases. However, many people have a mistaken perception of how well they work for actual pregnancy prevention. If everybody who relies on condoms could use them perfectly and with perfect consistency, only two couples in 100 would get pregnant each year via condom failure. But from a “human factors engineering” standpoint, condoms stink. In the real world where people fumble, forget, and wait too long to put them on or take them off, many couples depending on condoms end up pregnant. Condoms drop pregnancy rates from 85 percent (the rate for a sexually active couple using no contraception for one year) to 18 percent—a big improvement, but still terrifying for someone whose plans and efforts could be blown apart by a ruptured rubber.

Men want better choices, and women want better choices for men, and parents want better choices for their sons. And yet, as Dr. John Amory at the University of Washington put it, “Everybody’s been saying, ‘within the next five years,’ for the last 30 years,” but no new method for men has made it to market.

Dependable Male Birth Control Could Change Our Lives

We all, men and women alike, should be demanding better birth control for men. First off, there’s the fairness factor. Just like girls, young men should be able to pursue their dreams, confident that they won’t be derailed by a surprise pregnancy. In the 1999 movie A Walk on the Moon, a young mother, locked into a traditional working-class lifestyle by teen pregnancy, feels drawn to the 1969 Summer of Love emerging around her. As she indulges her yearning for freedom and adventure (and Viggo Mortensen), her husband, who “did the right thing” when she first got pregnant, is confronted with his own losses, especially the college education foregone. “You think I wanted to fix TVs?” he asks.

Besides derailing individual lives, the fact that men can’t count on their contraception means we all get stuck living in old cultural scripts. For millennia, our ancestors had no reliable means to manage their fertility. Given the power of the human sex drive, even abstinence commitments backed by a death penalty for sinners couldn’t be considered reliable. In other words, if our ancestors sought sex or intimacy—and we humans crave both—then children were a byproduct, wanted or not.

Consequently, throughout history children came into the world unplanned and mostly when parents would have chosen not to have another child. But to thrive, kids needed just as much care as they do today. In response, both culture and religion evolved messages to help ensure that such children were wanted and loved when they arrived. “Let go and let God,” some Christians say. “Que será, será.” “A baby is a blessing.” Still, today, some fundamentalist sects make passive submission to pregnancy a sacred virtue, and in Western culture at large, go-with-the-flow childbearing is accepted and celebrated. This is true even though we now have good evidence that thoughtful family planning increases maternal and child health, prosperity, marital harmony, and the ability of young men and women to live fulfilling lives.

Thanks to some determined researchers and funders, things may get better in the near future. An array of promising possibilities can be found in various stages of research around the globe. Here are some of the top contenders.

The “Clean Sheets Pill” (London, Oxford): Dr. Nnaemeka Amobi and his team are researching a hormone-free method that has been dubbed the “clean sheets pill” because it decreases or eliminates semen emission while leaving intact the sensation of ejaculation and the pleasure of male orgasm. The pill works by relaxing just the muscles in the vas deferens that normally propel sperm-containing semen forward and out. Without the forward propulsion, circular muscle contractions essentially close down the passage. Reducing or eliminating emission of semen not only prevents pregnancy, it also decreases the spread of semen-born diseases, including HIV. The hope is that this medication can be delivered via pills that men take before sex, much like Viagra.

RISUG (Kharagpur): More than 250 men have undergone a procedure called RISUG (reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance), which researchers hope will provide a cheaper and more reversible alternative to vasectomy. A liquid polymer is injected into the vas deferens, where it provides contraception for up to ten years. In the duct, the positively charged polymer reportedly acts almost like a magnet, reacting with the negative electrical charge on the membranes of passing sperm and rendering them infertile. In research with rats and primates, fertility has been restored by a noninvasive procedure that removes the polymer. Human clinical trials of RISUG are moving forward slowly in India.

Vasalgel (San Francisco): Inspired by RISUG, a similar polymer, dubbed Vasalgel, is under development in the United States, with rabbit research now underway to meet Food and Drug Administration standards and primate studies planned. Over 16,000 men and women have signed up to receive information about clinical trials, expected to begin in 2014.

Ultrasound (Chapel Hill): Therapeutic ultrasound is a common sports medicine treatment for injured joints and muscles. A brief massage of the testes with the same instruments has been shown to reduce sperm count in both animals and humans. Doctors have long known that heating the testes even to body temperature reduces fertility, and we know that therapeutic ultrasound produces a deep warmth. But for reasons that are unclear, the contraceptive effect of ultrasound is ten times that of heat alone. Depending on the level of exposure, contraceptive duration ranges from six weeks to permanent. One major challenge at this point is to find a treatment regimen that is either reliably reversible or reliably permanent. Of the two, use as a nonsurgical vasectomy option is more likely.

Gamendazole (Kansas City): Potential contraceptives are sometimes discovered as side effects of other medications, and gamendazole derives from a cancer treatment that by chance was noted to decrease male fertility. Research shows that the drug works by interrupting sperm maturation. Men taking gamendazole produce and release normal quantities of sperm, but the sperm are “nonfunctional.” In mating studies of rats, the drug achieved 100 percent infertility and was fully reversible. Research with monkeys looks promising.

Adjudin (New York): Like gamendazole, adjudin is an analogue of a cancer drug, lonidamine. It works the same way, causing sperm to be released when they are immature. For lonidamine, the gap between a contraceptive dose and a toxic dose is small, making the drug too dangerous to give to healthy people. But researchers at the Population Council were able to create a related compound that is taken up only by the precise receptors in the testes where it is needed for contraception. This dramatically reduces the needed dose. Two remaining drawbacks to adjudin are that it can be administered only by injection, and its effect is short-lived. Researchers are working to devise a version that doesn’t require frequent injections.

JQ1 (Waco, Boston): JQ1 is related to some familiar drugs, Valium and Xanax, but it has a very different effect. Instead of bringing on sleep or reducing anxiety, it blocks production of a protein in the testes that is essential to sperm growth. In mice that are given JQ1, the number of sperm takes a nose dive, and those that are produced don’t swim very well, which makes the mice infertile. Sex drive remains unaltered, and after the drug is stopped, sperm production rapidly returns to normal.

Testosterone and Progestin (Beijing, Los Angeles, Seattle): If injected or absorbed through the skin, testosterone alters hormonal messaging and reduces production of sperm. When combined with a progestogen and rubbed on in gel form, a daily application has effectively suppressed sperm concentration in almost 90 percent of men, with few side effects. Current research is exploring the best combination of testosterone and progestin, and how such a combination can be delivered to provide long-acting birth control.

With such a variety of options (and more) in the works, it seems like something new for men should be just around the corner. But much of the research is progressing at a snail’s pace due in part to regulatory barriers and lack of funding.

Contraceptives get used by young, healthy people, which means that the bar for safety and efficacy is much higher than for many other drugs. A cancer treatment might be welcomed if it has a 70 percent success rate and makes your hair fall out. Needless to say, either of these is a non-starter for a new contraceptive. The high bar (and the corresponding high risk of liability) makes drug companies and even philanthropists wary of investing in contraception—which has to be almost 100 percent effective and side effect-free to be a success.

Will any of these options make it to market in the next five years? That depends in part on whether drug companies, nonprofit research funders, and public health experts think we’re ready. Do men really want to take responsibility for contraception? Will women trust them to do so? Is there enough demand to make a massive high-risk investment in research and development worthwhile?

Are We Ready?

For a long time, outdated perceptions have contributed to the lack of investment in birth control for men. Since women traditionally have borne the primary burden of unwanted childbearing and parenting, decision-makers have long assumed that men wouldn’t be interested in contraceptives—or would have a very low tolerance for cost, side effects, or hassle. Today, though, in the age of paternity tests and child support, with fathers and mothers sharing parenting responsibility—more and more men want to be in control of their own fertility.

In May 2013, when a Florida man found that his girlfriend was pregnant, he tricked her into taking an abortifacient—an act of physical assault. Ultimately, caught in a web of religion-driven anti-abortion laws, he was charged not with assault but with “fetal murder.” Few people were sympathetic to his actions, but many were sympathetic to his plight. Men, like women, need effective tools for managing fertility if they are to have a hope of charting their own life course.

Interest in better male-controlled contraception varies widely depending on country and culture, but in a wide variety of countries more than half of men say they want better male birth control methods. After one study of male contraception sponsored by the World Health Organization, 85 percent of participants would have preferred to continue an experimental method rather than returning to whatever they used before—even though the experiment required a weekly injection.

A second longstanding misperception is that women can’t and won’t trust men for family planning. In truth, even with today’s limited options, meaning condoms and vasectomies, approximately one-third of U.S. couples rely on the man to provide contraception. A significant number of men who participate in clinical trials for male contraceptives say their wife or partner has had side effects from female methods or that they want to take the burden off of her for a while.

In general, people tend to overestimate the side effects of female birth control, falsely believing, for example, that contraceptives cause weight gain. But some female bodies respond poorly to even the micro-dose of copper or hormones present in top-tier contraceptives, and for other women the cost of the most effective methods is prohibitive. Barriers to access abound. Faced with the health risks of an unintended pregnancy, a woman can feel caught between a rock and a hard place. Consequently, many women appreciate guys who step up to the plate. Of almost 2,000 women surveyed in Edinburgh, Shanghai, Hong Kong, and Cape Town, a vast majority said they thought a male pill was a good idea, and only 2 percent said they wouldn’t trust their partners to use it.

To be frank, more men might do well to ask whether they should trust women to manage contraception. In the United States, with most contraception still in the hands of women, close to half of pregnancies are unintended, and the transition to thoughtful, intentional childbearing has been stalled for decades. Around a quarter of pregnancies occur in a month when a woman says she had used birth control. Like condoms, female barrier methods and even the birth control pill are quite subject to human error. In one study of 82 women, participants on average missed four or five pills per month, even when they were sent text-message reminders. It’s simply not reasonable to assume that ordinary human beings will do the same thing in the same way at the same time every day for 40 years—or every time they have sex. While longer-acting “fit and forget” contraceptives like IUDs and implants appear to radically change the equation, so would an improved array of options for the male half of the human race.

On the surface, it may seem that scientific challenges are the primary barrier to excellent male birth control. A woman produces an egg only once each month, while men produce millions of sperm daily. Female fertility can be detected and timed. It starts later and ends sooner than male fertility. But those in the know say biology isn’t the problem. The question is one of politics and priorities. The National Institutes of Health summed up the problem in direct (if wonky) terms over a decade ago:

The lack of progress in developing affordable, safe, effective, and reversible male contraceptives is due not to the biological complexity involved in suppressing spermatogenesis [the production of sperm], but rather to social and economic/commercial constraints.

Today, research on male contraception is 50 years behind research on female contraception. The difference is as much as anything an artifact of history and tradition, which ripple into the present. Several years ago in a South African youth hostel, my daughters were dismayed to encounter a young man who casually said that he wanted a dozen children. As they queried him, they got a glimpse into both his culture and our own—into all times and places where child care has been primarily a female concern, and males could count offspring like a banker counts dollars. But gender roles and parenting have evolved in the last 50 years, all in the direction of more equality, mutuality, and flexible division of labor between men and women. For many men, those changes include a desire to be deeply present in their children’s lives.

As men get more involved in late-night diaper changes and storybook reading and getting kids off to school, their perspective on having children may look more and more like the one that has historically been held by many women. They don’t want 12 kids; they want two or four or one, or sometimes, knowing their own limits, none at all. In other words, they want childbearing to be intentional, and they want to decide for themselves when the time is right. It’s time that they had the tools to do so.

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  • Arekushieru

    I think you are missing one key point, however; Society, for the longest time has made BOTH men and women believe that contraception and childbearing are the WOMAN’S responsibility. It’s not just some ‘outside’ decision-makers, on the edges of, and untouched by, society (as you make it seem but is actually pretty impossible) that have barred men from effective options for birth control, after all.

    Also, I wish that they could have done these trials without using other animals as the ‘guinea pigs’.

    Other than that, I am very happy to see these things being developed.

    • cjvg

      This is true, however many pro-choice women and couples are now raising their kids to consider contraception to be a personal responsibility!
      They are raising their daughters AND their sons with the understanding that pregnancy takes two, and childbirth caused two people to become parents, so the responsibility to prevent pregnancy takes two also!

      • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

        True pregnancy “takes two”. But only one of those people can unilaterally decide to abandon their parental responsibilities after a pregnancy has already taken place via: abortion, adoption, or safe haven laws. Only one of those people is guarenteed a 90% chance of gaining custody before they ever set foot in the courtroom. Only one of those people is likely to be relegated to a mere visitor in his children’s lives, while paying though the nose; under threat of imprisonment for that privilege.

        It’s long past time that men’s legal and medical options regarding reproduction and parenting caught up to women’s. Male birth control will be a needed step in that direction.

        Also am I the only one who finds it strange that “many pro-choice women” [read feminists] are teaching their sons that someone else’s body is their responsibility? Stop making men responsible for women’s bodies and what they decide to do with them! Their body, their choice, their responsibility!

  • cj99.willingness99@gmail.com

    Being a guy most of these I would use as their not permanent and appear as if they could be quite effective. Hopefully STD prevention will also catch up.

  • Kathi J

    For me the big question is unless a couple is married or in a long-term committed relationship why would a woman trust that a man really is on birth control. He won’t be the one getting pregnant.

    • MaiaDoe

      “unless a couple is married or in a long-term committed relationship”
      Sadly, birth control sabotage happens even in this kind of relationship.

      To your question – I think that if the woman does not trust him, then she can use contraceptives too, that way both of them can feel comfortable. There are too many cases of women who just stopped to take the pill on purpose, without telling their partner.
      If both partners are using contraception, then there is no harm (except for monetary), and the reliability must be well over 99%.

      • Arekushieru

        Um, and there are also too many cases of reproductive sabotage by male partners. And there is a reason why women don’t trust men to do the same. I outlined it my first post on this thread. Why don’t you try reading it? Kthx.

        • MaiaDoe

          I’ve already read your post. And?

          • Arekushieru

            Reading comprehension. Not your strong suit I take it?

          • Arekushieru

            To Gregy buu: If there are more cases, you won’t have a problem listing the names of your sources. Sorry, MRA sites don’t count. I only want non-biased, peer reviewed, medically ACCREDITED sites. Thanks.

        • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

          If a man tries to trap a woman: She can just get an abortion, or leave it at a fire station.

          If a woman tries to trap a man: Too bad!

          • Arekushieru

            Never heard of contraceptive sabotage or domestic partner violence, which, btw, is perpetrated by MEN more often than WOMEN? And abortion is not that easy to obtain no matter HOW much misogynistic antis or MRAs would LOVE to have you believe. And, here’s a doozy of a question for an ignorant MRA such as yourself, what bodily function does a fetus usurp on a MAN’S body? If none, then there really isn’t anything that a man COULD be trapped into that a woman couldn’t, and there IS something that a woman COULD be trapped into that a man couldn’t. Ah, did that hurt the poor little MRAs feefees???

          • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

            what bodily function does a fetus usurp on a MAN’S body?

            If the mother chooses to let that fetus to grow into a baby then that man has to use his body to earn money to make child support payments. Often while doing dirty or dangerous jobs. How many women are forced to: risk getting their legs blown off in Afghanistan, work on oil rigs, or work in coal mines to provide for their children?

            If for some reason that man is unable to pay his ridiculously large court ordered child support payments; his body ends up in prison. That’s how a fetus eventually usurps a mans body. A single mother only has to use her body to support a child for 9 months; and only if she chooses to do so. A single father has to use his body to support that child for 18 years; whether he wants to or not.. Seriously Carla never go full retard.

    • nicothed

      Yes, but he’ll be the one paying for the next 25 years… That’s a pretty odd fear.

      • Kathi J

        Unfortunately many men pay zero child support, I was married and my ex-husband did not pay one penny towards supporting his child. Plus child support rarely comes close to what it costs – or rather half of what it costs to raise a child.

        • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

          Bullshit. I’ve been on both sides. Having been the one paying child support, and now being the primary custodian while not receiving any child support from the mother. The amount men pay is way more then it costs to raise a child. At least when the child is younger.

          Claiming that currently men can choose to pay zero child support is also untrue. They just seize it from your wages before it ever hits your bank account. Any money that hits a bank account with your name on it will be seized and given to the mother. Any money owed to you by the government such as: social security, or tax refunds will be seized and given to the mother.

          If you fall behind your payments due to: illness, injury, or unemployment your drivers license will be suspended, and you’ll eventually be imprisoned. Good luck trying to find a job to pay off your debt when you can’t drive, or you’re locked in the slammer.

          Madam either you’re lying, or sorely misinformed about the current state of child support collection in the United States.

          • Kathi J

            Would it make you feel better if I said non-custodial parents rather than men? I know it works both ways, a niece of mine pays no child support to her ex-husband who has sole custody of their children and never has, she also really doesn’t have a relationship with those children. I still disagree and so do many other custodial parents who get zero child support and I’ve only known a small handful of custodial parents who got close to what half the cost of supporting a child is via child support. You are assuming a child support order to begin with and some non-custodial parents evade that, look at all the single-parents on welfare who get no support, we the taxpayers pay for their children. Non-custodial parents can work the underground economy, can vanish, etc. This is especially true when the couple was never married or did not have a long-term relationship and where the non-custodial parent does not care at all about the child. I know that once an order is in place, it’s hard to evade child support and there are legal consequences, but do not assume every custodial parent is able to get a child support order or has any chance of getting support.

          • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

            Would it make you feel better if I said non-custodial parents rather than men?

            Since over 90% of men are NCP’s it’s a largely a distinction without a difference.

            Of course your niece doesn’t pay child support. She’s a woman. My ex is a female NCP also. Guess what? She doesn’t pay child support either. The court system is highly biased against men.

            …look at all the single-parents on welfare who get no support, we the taxpayers pay for their children.

            If a single mother goes on welfare the state automatically sues the father for child support, then uses that money to reimburse the government for the cost of welfare. Those children aren’t supported by the taxpayers.

            Non-custodial parents can work the underground economy, can vanish, etc.

            *rolls eyes* Yeah sure. All the guy has to do is vanish; cut off all contact with everyone he cares about; commit to never seeing his child again; and somehow fraudulently create an entirely new identity. Sounds easy enough.

            Either that or work as a dishwasher: paid in cash, with no unemployment insurance, health insurance, or social security when he gets too old to work. Sounds like a great plan.

            On the other hand if a woman gets tired of her baby she can take advantage of abandonment laws just drop it off at the fire station. Like the posters say: No names, no shame, no blame. But hey walmart has a 90 day return policy for its blenders; why shouldn’t mothers have a similar return policy for their children.

          • Kathi J

            My niece does not pay because most of the time she’s a guest of the state (long-time drug abuser) and even when on the loose she doesn’t work in the normal economy so appears to have no income. Welfare is supposed to look for and sue non-custodial parents but really there’s little follow-through and it can take many years. Some women won’t know the social security number either and that makes it more complicated. You would be surprised at the number of people who work off books. And what does abandoning her baby have to do with getting or paying child support?

          • Arekushieru

            Sorry, sweetie, but the reason why most men are NCPs is because WOMEN are the ones who SEEK custody. If more men actually SOUGHT custody, there would be more male custodial parents. Oopsies?

            The other reason why women are granted custody more often is because of MISOGYNY, meaning the courts are biased against WOMEN. WOMEN still take on the majority of child rearing and household tasks and that is what the courts take into consideration, thereby perpetuating the belief that women are more suited to nurturing children without recognizing the cultural roles that typically place those pressures on women to become nurturers. If there ARE no such cultural roles and pressures, you will be able to give me peer-reviewed, non-biased evidence that backs the theory that men take on more of the child rearing tasks than women do. But, of course, you can’t. Oops, again!

            I just gave you an example of a woman who was on welfare and whom the courts haven’t ordered child support payments for. So, wrong, again, as usual.

            Welfare IS supported by taxpayers. Umpteenth time you’ve been wrong, so far, hasn’t it? Doesn’t matter whether the government EVENTUALLY gets its money, after all….

            And, gee, if you aren’t receiving court-ordered child support payments from the mother of your child, HOW is it that a woman MUST be receiving court-ordered child support payments from the father of her child? OR, if she isn’t being ordered to pay child support, why isn’t it that a MAN can NOT have been ordered to pay child support payments, as well? Because men are ALWAYS such ‘fine’, ‘upstanding’ citizens while women NEVER ARE? Wow, again, you prove that it is MISOGYNY that drives our social and court systems… ANNNNNDDD prove yourself wrong. Oops.

            So, we see your REAL goal, with the ending paragraph. You want women to be PUNISHED with a child (after all, if it’s THAT BIG OF A DEAL that men may be ordered to pay child support more often and be made ‘homeless, starving and/or a criminal’ by defaulting on them, then forcing women to keep the child is punishment on your part since women will be made to bear the brunt of those costs on LESS MONEY, if you have YOUR way), and men to have all the support they need and want when raising children, because that is what you consider ‘balance’.

            Obtw, tell me ALSO what hormonal changes men can be expected to undergo or even what forms of post-partum syndrome, including, but not limited to, the baby blues, depression, etc… they may experience after they get pregnant and give birth? None? Then I have to ask, misogyny much? DERP.

          • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

            Hey Carla Clark nice try.

            Only an idiot would believe the claim that a fat middle aged woman
            for Alberta, Canada knows more about the American custody and child support system then an American citizen who’s personally dealt with it on a regular basis.

            But who’s going to argue with someone who claims to have read “numerous studies” and “actual reports”. It’s not like you just made that or anything.

            After browsing though your comments it’s obvious that you’re mentally disturbed. Since I’m not one for arguing with crazy people I’m not going to respond to that wall of lies that you just posted. Instead I’ll just put your picture up so people will know who you are. That way they can stay the heck away from you, and let you continue to ranting to yourself. Have a great day!

          • Arekushieru

            Really, perhaps the REASON why you think men pay way more than it costs to raise a child is because MEN are typically paid more on a single income than a woman is? DERP. Maybe you should browse some of the other posts on this website and see just HOW much a singleton PREGNANCY alone costs, before you even get INTO the costs of child rearing, THEN attempt to pull the wool over everyone’s eyes, mmkay…? Their calculations are based on NUMEROUS studies, not just anecdotes like YOURS. So, WHOM should we believe is lying, again…?

            And, here’s another anecdote for you, partially in hope that by showing you what you ADVOCATE for, namely removing court-mandated child support payments, will do, you will finally have COMPASSION for women (but I’m not going to hold my breath, because MRAs are, for the most part, too self-interested) but partially to show you how little anecdotes actually mean in the scheme of things: I have a friend who is living on WELFARE and COULD sue for support payments, but chooses NOT to, because the court proceedings and their time and travel costs ALONE would eat into whatever amount she has already scrimped and saved to live on, and she barely gets by as it IS. ALL she is asking for the father to pay is a measly 100$ a month when he CAN. But even on his WORST months he makes FAR more than she does on her BEST day. He very rarely makes that payment, even ON those best months. He COULD be the CP IF he didn’t smoke weed in front of a child whose immune system is SEVERELY compromised from being two and a half months premature and IF he didn’t associate with a known child abuser, who has had her own child taken away for that reason. Hmm…. WHO is the one whining, NOW?

            And reports, ACTUAL REPORTS, outline the reasons why many men default on their payments, and, here’s a hint, ‘honey’, it’s NOT because of injury, illness or unemployment. DERP.

          • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

            Hey Carla nice try.

            Only an idiot would claim that a fat middle aged woman for Alberta, Canada knows more about the American custody and child support system then an American citizen who’s personally dealt with it on a regular basis.

            But who’s going to argue with someone who claims to have read “numerous studies” and “actual reports”. It’s not like you just made that up for the sake of argument or anything. After browsing though your comments it’s obvious that you’re mentally disturbed. Since I’m not one for arguing with crazy people I’ll let you babble to yourself. Have a great day.

    • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

      Then don’t trust him! Just because he’s on birth control doesn’t mean you can’t be on birth control as well. Stop whining and take responsibility for your own body!

      • Arekushieru

        So, women should make sure they are trustworthy to men, but men should not do the same for men? Wow, double standards much, ignorant ASS?

        • http://news.mensactivism.org/ Jhon Deo

          Where did I say that Carla? Be sure to cite a direct quote by me.

  • Kathi J

    Men don’t get pregnant so yes it’s a gender thing. It’s not at all the same for them if birth control fails, if they forget to take their pill. I just think unless a man has the same motivation for a pregnancy not to happen, it’s a risk for a woman, especially a single woman, to felt secure that he is using birth control. Wholly different in a marriage or long term relationship.

  • http://www.juegos2.info/ Juegos 2

    when men take care of the kids while they are ardent love for your family. more women should not be too hard on them

    • Arekushieru

      Um, sorry, but women STILL take on the majority of child rearing duties. Who gives a flying FIG if he loves them or not? Seriously. Stop your whining.

  • Arekushieru

    I mean, seriously, did you have to have Kathi point out to you that it IS a gender thing? WOW.