• Cade DeBois

    I will say this: these hashtags, or more importantly how people used them, havw made me seriously reconsider being a feminist and an ally at all. I grew up in a very diverse world and have long been passionate about advocating for the rights and inclusion of others, but here’s the thing: I’m a disabled person and I am very, VERY tired of the only people who can be bothered to advocate for us being us disabled people ourselves or, far worse, pathological “savior” types who think we’re all children, or pets, or “inspirations” or some other pitiful things who need to be patronized egregiously. Time and time again discussions about intersectionality focus on one or two noisy issues, namely race and gender, and it pushes anything else to the side. Objections about this, like those some of us disabled people made about those hashtags, usually are answered with a bunch of ‘splainin’ and excuses made by people who claim they are doing this for help promote intersectionality for everyone yet we disabled people know that’s code for “Go sit in the back and STFU”. When the people who are loving those hashtags and preaching to us about how to be a “good ally” are ready to actually acknowledge the existence of the marginalized people they’ve been ignoring, make room for us in their disussions and SHOW US RESPECT AS FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS, let me know. Until then, I’m taking a serious break for all of this ally business.

    • http://twitter.com/devans00 devans00

      Cade DeBois The only reason intersectionality is a topic on the table is because the impacted groups continue making noise and asserting their experiences to be taken seriously. Even though they’ve been told to “sit down and shut up!” umpteen times. Too bad for the allies made uncomfortable.

      The Black community has been fighting against the dominant culture at least since the end of World War II. A lot of that hard work paid off with the Civil Rights movement in the 1960s. But, there is still a long way to go.

      The LGBTQ community has been fighting for rights since at least the 1960s. I’d say it’s only since the 2000s that they’ve made a lot of measurable progress in marriage civil rights and general acceptance/tolerance by more than 1/2 the population.

      My point is, nothing comes easy for any group that isn’t considered the mainstream. The struggle lasts decades/lifetimes. Keep pushing through the set backs and disappointments to get what you want. Stopping before your goals are accomplished won’t help your cause in the long term.

  • anacoluthon

    I wasn’t aware that POC had so many allies that they needed to thin the herd. I have nothing but respect for POC and trans* people, but clearly my alliance is not needed. No ally to the civil rights movement is sitting around expecting a cookie for trying to be a decent human being, but I didn’t expect to get slammed either. Hashtags are not activism. tweets are not activism. I still support civil rights, but I’m no longer sticking my neck out.

  • Heather McCollam

    Love this article! Personally, tired of being called racist b/c I don’t agree that racism is the worst social problem we are facing today. It’s hard for me to ignore racism as one of my sons is black but I also have had decades of living- with black ppl and other diverse ppl in my life. But what I see today, as in currently, is a world with growing problems including child abuse & sexual slavery. I don’t feel heard nor respected when I talk about my experiences as a female collegiate athlete, custodial mother, ex-wife, and Guardian ad Litem. Experiences- not opinions. First-hand life experiences. Instead of being censored and ignored/dismissed, I would simply like to be acknowledged and heard. Friends of all colors tell me I’m not “normal” and I understand things white people usually don’t. I am working on my communication skills so I can communicate more effectively but I have found that if someone doesn’t want to hear truth and isn’t able to objectively listen- there isn’t much I can do but keep on speaking my truth.

  • anacoluthon

    I mean exactly what I said in my comment. I will no longer consider myself an ally. I’m not going to sign petitions or circulate them to support civil rights, I’m not going to rallies and marches, and i’m not going to speak up any longer (such as putting my job on the line by speaking up) when I hear racist comments. The twitter activists have made it pretty clear that they have plenty of allies who “get it” so my services are no longer needed. Silly me, being an intersectionalist for all those years and in reality we were fighting under different flags.

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