• Guest

    Very beautif

  • http://www.facebook.com/samantha.vimes Samantha Vimes

    I second this, from women everywhere to men everywhere.

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  • http://twitter.com/TriniFroid TriniFroid

    So this article is directed to ALL Caribbean men from ALL Caribbean women, because from the use of language that is a fair assumption. Poor men they are most painted as the protagonist. These articles are so numerous and the use of language is important. I myself are not one of these men and I showed this to some of my friends who don’t practice any of these action in the article and we all felt the same way… attacked. You may say “if it doesn’t apply to me, why bother?” I know numerous men that try to maintain a certain standard but constantly have to face the lagging tongue of disgruntled women who lump all men in the same category. If I were to say, “All women who show there figure when they dress want attention.” Women who don’t will probably be bothered by it and if they hear it enough times they will be angry. So please when trying to address an issue, if you choose, please be mindful of your language as I hope your purpose was to empower and rectify a situation not attack and degrade.

    • Empress Natty

      Why would you feel attacked instead of thinking that hmmm, maybe I am not guilty of these transgressions against Caribbean Women but I know a couple of men who are? Or hmm, when I go to town I see this happening, why don’t I say something? Because I know you see it happening and I’m pretty sure you don’t say anything. How about you challenge the men who you see acting like animals to do better?

      Fact that it has to be explained to you at this point in your mental development that she does not mean each and every single man in the Caribbean but rather to the persons she was addressing is disappointing. This is just a different way of saying “To whom it may concern”. But I’m sure you knew that right? Please be mindful of your ignorance. It’s showing.

      • http://twitter.com/TriniFroid TriniFroid

        There you go trying to break me down instead of empowering, just typical, that part of the reason there is always a power struggle between the sexes. You are trying to invalidate my comment and opinion which is shared by many I have spoken to. I was trying to suggest to the author to find words to empower rather than break down and criticise…

        • Empress Natty

          Your comment WAS invalid. You were missing the entire point of the article and I don’t care about how you feel about me invalidating your comment. You strike me as one of the types of people that would rather say “Well I don’t do that” and not say something to people who do. The author is meant to break down and criticize the men who engage in that kind of behaviour because guess what? That’s how we women feel after we leave town, after we’ve been broken down to our base elements of ass tits and pussy.

          The author does not have any obligation to molly coddle those who trespass on our sense of self worth. She has no obligation to be an apologist for their behaviour acting like if they can’t help it. And the quicker you and people who think like you get that out of your head the quicker we can progress. It’s gone beyond the point of being a teaching moment. These kind of people NEED to feel bad about what they do and how they affect us. So let me reiterate, I don’t care about your hurt feelings, I don’t care if you feel attacked because the focus of the article flew right over your head. It is not about you. At all. It’s about those men who have no problem seeing women as strictly sexual objects and play things and toys. If YOU don’t think like this, why are you taking offense? Why do you feel personally attacked? The gentleman doth protest too much, methinks.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ashleighbryde Ashleigh Hennessy

    Sounds like this letter is from all women, to all men.

  • http://www.facebook.com/neil.mcphoy Neil LifeChanger McPhoy

    Wonderfully put! As a Caribbean man, I hear you. I respect you and I pledge to do my part in bringing my brothers, friends, nephews and sons to this consciousness. Please accept one Caribbean man’s apology on behalf of all the others who are yet in the dark. Myself and others are out there sharing words of light and life to other men. Keep sharing and speaking out. However, don’t ever give up on us. Pray for us and believe in the best of us.

  • http://www.facebook.com/julie.gonzales.9847 Julie Gonzales

    To the gentleman that was disgruntled as much as I understand that you may feel attacked by this essay.I wish that ALL men including Caribbean men would stop looking at the tree and focus on the forest.This article is not about you it is about the harassment and violence meted out to Caribbean women and the high tolerance level that many women have had to develop to cope in this society and the fact that some women just want to be respected period.Again I would encourage men to stop looking at this message as a personal attack but as a message to take to your brothers (not as victims of discrimination) but as defenders of your sister, daughters and mothers.We are all a part of each other and when one part hurts the whole society hurts.

    • http://twitter.com/TriniFroid TriniFroid

      Thank you Julie but maybe the author needed to add this message to her article.

  • Daggor

    So, what they’re saying is the Caribbean is a horrible place to live, and America should keep all Caribbean men away form our borders at all costs.

    • http://www.facebook.com/megaloo.ohorran Megaloo O’Horran

      Daggor didin’t get it. He turned the widespread sexist practises of men everywhere into a racial issue. Racism and sexism are two prongs of the same fork Daggor! If you are this racist, you just might be a little sexist too.

      • http://twitter.com/TriniFroid TriniFroid

        How did he turn it into “racism?”

  • http://www.facebook.com/deon.hardy Deon Andria Hardy

    Wrote a Poem about something similar. It is true men think everything is done for them.

  • http://www.facebook.com/wineworker Ayisha Needanewtat John

    BRAVO!!!!!!

  • John Caribbean

    You need to get a life and stop worry about caribbean men. We aint worried about u.

  • http://www.facebook.com/emefa.apatu Emefa Apatu

    To all my Caribbean sisters who have suffered degradation at the hands of men who feel that it is their right to regard you as their sexual property, you are not alone. Thank you so much for this post. The kind of nonsense I hear in this country (RSA)…

  • Rome

    Dear Caribbean women…get over yourselves.

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