Anti-Gay New York GOP Rep to Teach Courses in “Feminine Elegance” to Help Women “Act Like Proper Ladies”

Thanks to colleague Rachel Sklar for the original tip on this piece. 

I would say this is in the category of… “you can’t believe it,” but these days there is nothing about today’s GOP I can’t believe anymore. From forced pregnancy, to forced ultrasounds (trans-vaginal or abdominal), to denial of care for rape victims, and denial of both health and pay inequities, the GOP is going out of its way to tell us exactly how they feel about women.

And now this: An anti-gay New York GOP legislator has decided that women are not acting “feminine enough,” so… he will teach us how to be feminine.

This is reported from Joe. My. God. 

Anti-gay New York GOP state Sen. Marty Golden thinks women need to start acting like proper ladies. And he’s going to teach a class on how to do just that. City & State reports:

Later this month, Republican State Sen. Marty Golden’s office is holding a career-development event for women in his southern Brooklyn district teaching them “Posture, Deportment and the Feminine Presence.” That’s according to a taxpayer-funded mailing being sent out in Golden’s district, which an offended reader passed along. The taxpayer-funded event – presented by a “certified protocol consultant” – is part of a series teaching women in Brooklyn “what’s new in the 21st century as it relates to business etiquette and social protocol.” More details are also available on Golden’s Senate website, including the fact that women in attendance will be taught to, “Sit, stand and walk like a model,” how to, “Walk up and down a stair elegantly” and “Differences in American and Continental rules governing handshakes and introductions.”

According to Joe. My. God., “Golden says his classes are meant to help young women get jobs, therefore you are paying for it.”

Of course, assuming women need to be taught how to be “proper ladies” means to this guy that they should be quiet, demure, undemanding of their rights, available for sex whenever men demand it, willing to endure forced pregnancy and childbirth, submissive to their husbands and (white) male politicians and religious figures. And I am sure we should stop asking for things like pay equity.

In turn, I will be offering members of the GOP, Tea Party, fundamentalist right-wing nutcases, and those Blue Dog Democrats complicit in their agenda to attend a class on how not to be idiotic, sexist, misogynistic pigs, but something tells me that attendance will be low, because you’d have to have some measure of self-awareness to even decide you needed help.

And, somehow, I don’t think tax-payer funding would be available for said class. Just sayin’.

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  • j-rae

    ***is part of a series teaching women in Brooklyn “what’s new in the 21st century as it relates to business etiquette and social protocol.” More details are also available on Golden’s Senate website, including the fact that women in attendance will be taught to, “Sit, stand and walk like a model,” how to, “Walk up and down a stair elegantly” and “Differences in American and Continental rules governing handshakes and introductions.”***

    Business etiquette and social protocol plus expectations for personal presentation are important for women AND men entering the business world.

    Unfortunately this class sounds more like prepping women to enter a less socially acceptable profession.

  • colleen

    Someone should develop a curriculum to teach the poorly raised sons of conservatives how to be decent, responsible men.  The poor boys are completely lacking in decent role models.





  • coralsea

    I agree with JRae, business etiquette is important, particularly in international business settings, for both men and women, but it sure as heck doesn’t involve “walking like a model.” 


    I would love to know just what this guy thinks is “unfeminine” and in need to correcting?  Women who wear hard hats and steel-toed workboots?  Guilty!! Although only when I am visiting a site.  Women who “challenge” men by disagreeing with them or, heaven forbid, outshining them in terms of ability?  That’s a common one.  Women who don’t “fix themselves up” enough because they are have enough on their plate, simply supporting themselves and, often, their families in an increasingly abusive work environment?  Or maybe just women who speak out when they haven’t been asked specifically to do so, and don’t bow and scrape before the Superior Male (wait, my bad.  Curtsy.  Women should curtsy).


    I really thought we were past this crap, but I guess with the GOP, everything sexist, racist, and classist, and old is new again.  What a total and complete jerk!

  • coralsea

    I would say that Reform School would have possibly benefitted the young, bullying Mitt Romney.  But no, probably not.  I think in his case, the entitled behavior and belief that he was innately superior are parts of his personality and would have prevailed.



  • ehf

    In the South, we call this cotillion! You do it when you’re in middle school. You learn how to let a boy open doors for you and ask your father’s permission to date you. The mothers who provide refreshments are only known as “Mrs. (Insert Husband’s First and Last Name)”. You learn to do social dances, including important modern ones like The Hustle. Oh, and they generally only let white people do it. 

  • j-rae

    they call it modeling schools.

    It often leads to embarrassing photos and jobs in clubs that are frequented by GOPers for *meetings*.


  • jodi-jacobson

    Turns out that these taxpayer funded classes were/are being held in Golden’s family-owned catering hall.  Nice deal.

  • coralsea

    It also leads to captions under those embarrassing photos in which all of the women are listed as “Mrs. John Smith,” or “Cordelia, Daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.”


    I grew up in an affluent area (although I have been downwardly mobile ever since) and these types of photo captions in the local newspaper used to drive me nuts.


    And yes, they used to have lessons that you had to go to and a rehearsal for the actual “coming out” presentation.  The one thing I can say about my parents’ strong fundamentalist beliefs is that, despite pressure from my grandmother, who was very much a “grand dame” and on the Social Register (and actually also listed, thanks to my grandfather, in DeBrett’s Peerage), they allowed my sister and me to opt out of that whole “mess in a dress.”  One girl I know who did “come out” subsequently moved on to working on social justice issues, which scandalized a lot of people, although not my parents.  Little did they know that she was a practicing Wiccan.

  • coralsea

    I do think any woman or young girl who gets invited to something like this should simply give the impeccable and imperious answer, “Oh, so very sorry.  My dance card is full….No really, full….for the next few years….Permanently, actually.”

  • coralsea

    One could also simply explain that you are busy, taking the Duggar kids to the beach!

  • coralsea

    Elizabeth — I’m frankly shocked that they would allow something like the Hustle.  The young women might sweat!

  • stan-james

    HE will teach a course on being femine


    Absolute proof once again that the guy is just a pathological liar in the closet .

    We need a few tops to keep his bottom happy.

    then we can put him on this list  

  • stan-james

    BTW heres another repub who forgot his pix was on the web

    Tony perkins, head of FRC – well he hates blacks also.  As well as leading the most virulent hate group in America.

    Tony – people who hate other people really hate themselves

    Why dont you cum out.

    As for his sidekick,   George Rekers, founder of the FRC and head of Narth which claims to fix gays

    Didnt work to well on Rekers…………………..  

  • rozlee

    This li’l ol’ congress critter wants me to be a right proper young Southern lady from the plantation (even though he’s a damn Yankee), in my nice frock and bonnet, twirling mah parasol and gettin’ the vapors (whatever those are) whenever a marriageable prospect comes along.

    Puhleeze. I wore combat boots and carried an M4 that was bigger than I was in three wars. I can see their reasoning in refusing to believe in evolution; it evidently left them behind. Where’s an asteroid when you need one to wipe out some of these damn dinosuars?

  • ehf

    In the South, “women don’t sweat, they glow”. (I don’t know how many times I heard this growing up.) 


    Also, I so love that the term “coming out” is now universally associated with coming out of the closet even in my little hometown. Take that, upper crust! Though, for the record, the upper crust in my hometown was relatively accepting of the gay members of the community so long as they channeled their gayness into a good community theater season or a well-catered New Year’s shindig.