Woman Protests “Lay Back and Enjoy Your Beating” Comment by Wisconsin Lawmaker; Staffer Calls Her Dumb

Below is the text of an email written by a woman (she gave us permission to reprint here but we have removed her name) who read our article on Wisconsin Representative Pridemore’s suggestion that women who are beaten by their husbands should just deal with it and remember the good things about why they married their husbands in the first place.

Pridemore’s comments, combined with his attacks on single mothers as the root of all evil, gave us pause as to whether Representative Pridemore really understood that women are individual human beings with basic human rights, or if he takes that whole Adam’s rib thing literally.

Unfortunately, the response from Pridemore’s staffer to our friend’s email–he calls it the “dunbest (sic) email ever,” suggests that, indeed, some training on gender sensitivity and equity might be in order for Mr. Pridemore’s entire office.

Below is her original email:

Sent: Fri 3/23/2012 11:40 AM
To: Rep.Pridemore
Subject: In response to your comment about divorce in case of abuse

Mr. Pridemore –

I would like to make a deal with you.  I propose we live together (I’ll even relocate to Wisconsin!) for a year in an abusive relationship.  I’ll beat the shit out of you on a regular basis, verbally assault you, make you live in extreme fear, break down any shred of self-worth you might have, all that good stuff.  After 12 months, we can both reevaluate our positions on the issue.

Granted, you don’t know me well enough to “love me,” thus giving you happy thoughts to call on when I’m beating you violently, but let’s see what we can work out.  What do you say?  :)



Arlington, Virginia

And the staffer’s response:

On Fri, Mar 23, 2012 at 12:42 PM, Rep.Pridemore <Rep.Pridemore@legis.wisconsin.gov> wrote:

Congrats, this IS the dunbest e-mail yet!
Bill Savage
Office of Don Pridemore
I guess they didn’t get the point.

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  • jennifer-starr

    Not only is Bill Savage just as bigoted as his boss, but he’s also illiterate.  Who votes these DIMWITS into office?? 

  • veggietart

    I do believe studies have shown that kids who grow up exposed to violence–such as when Dad beats Mom–are more likely to end up in violent relationships themselves.  Men whose dads were abusive become abusive themselves.  Women whose moms were abused end up becoming abuse victims.


    So, excuse me, Rep. Pridemore, but a household headed by a single parent is better than a household in which one parent abuses the other.  

  • coralsea

    Since this is Wisconsin we are talking about, perhaps Rep. Pridemore and his minion, Mr. Savage, might want to counsel Gov. Walker, who has been notorious for his attacks on unions, that the Gov. and his Republican buddies in the legislature (and his deep-pocketed backers, such as the Koch brothers) should remember all of the kind thoughts and satisfaction they felt when the union contracts were signed–an act that was presumably undertaken in good faith. 


    You know–kind of like getting married. 


    After all, considering the amount of hours workers put in on the job, voiding their contracts and bringing in low-wage, non-union employees isn’t all that different than the (in their eyes) treacherous behavior of the woman who leaves her husband and runs off to raise their kids as one of those dreaded Single Mothers.   I mean — we already know that Pridemore doesn’t think that being beaten or otherwise abused is a good enough reason for a woman to leave the man she married.  So shouldn’t he tell Gov. Walker et al that they need to at least honor union contracts until they expire? 


    I guess it depends on who gets to designate which agreements are apples and which are oranges.  


    I suspect that Messrs Pridemore and Savage are among the folks who used to (and probably still do) refer disparagingly to Battered Women’s Shelters to “Run Away Wives Shelters.” 


    Come on, Wisconsin women–you are 51% of the electorate.  Stand up for yourselves and shame these troglodites out of office (and support positions, in the case of the aptly named Mr. Savage).

  • ankhorite


    No, no, no, the staffer is right!  Her letter is dun best of them all.  It’s an excellent modest proposal to help educate Pridemore on the issues.


    Of course, it works as a satirical thought experiment, not as an actual assault.


    Sadly, I doubt Pridemore or his illiterate staffer are capable of that much thought.  :(