I Love Abortion: Implying Otherwise Accomplishes Nothing for Women’s Rights


I love abortion. I don’t accept it. I don’t view it as a necessary evil. I embrace it. I donate to abortion funds. I write about how important it is to make sure that every woman has access to safe, legal abortion services. I have bumper stickers and buttons and t-shirts proclaiming my support for reproductive freedom. I love abortion.

And I bristle every time a fellow activist uses a trendy catch-phrase or rallying cry meant to placate pro-lifers. The first of these, “Make abortion safe, legal, and rare!” has been used for decades as a call for abortion rights.

Safe and legal are concepts I fully support, but rare is something I cannot abide. I understand the theoretical mindset: it is better for a woman to prevent an unwanted pregnancy than to bear the physical and financial burden of an abortion. While my own abortion involved very little pain and a minimal financial expense, one which my ex-boyfriend was willing to share with me, even I can admit that using condoms or the pill is preferable to eight weeks of nausea and weight gain. Contraception is a valuable tool.

However, there is no need to suggest that abortion be rare. To say so implies a value judgement, promoting the idea that abortion is somehow distasteful or immoral and should be avoided. Even with affordable, accessible birth control, there will be user errors, condoms that break, moments of spontaneity. The best contraceptive access in the world won’t change the fact that we are merely human and imperfect in our routines. The best access in the world also won’t change the fact that some women are raped, while others find that even wanted pregnancies sometimes need to be terminated for the woman’s well-being or to avoid birthing a child with painful or unmanageable disabilities. Women who find themselves facing any of these situations shouldn’t feel guilty for failing to keep the numbers low.

It stands to reason that if we ensure contraception is both readily available and easily affordable for sexually active women of all ages, the need for abortion may decrease as a result. That would be a laudable accomplishment and an indication of social progress for an America otherwise plagued by anti-feminist, religious conservatism known for shaming women’s sexuality.

Nevertheless, even in the face of such (hypothetical) strides, we must remember that extenuating circumstances like health, contraceptive failure, and rape mean that abortion will always be a normal, necessary, and reasonable choice for many women. As such, we must avoid stigmatizing it in any way. No woman benefits from even the vaguest insinuation that abortion is an immoral or objectionable option. That’s the weak argument made by misogynistic, forced-birth advocates, and it has no place in a dialogue about reproductive freedom. Terminating a pregnancy is not an unethical act, yet suggesting that abortion should be rare implies that there is something undesirable about having one.

Similarly, I’ve heard reproductive rights activists claim that “no one likes abortion,” in an attempt to find common ground with anti-choicers. While it may be true that no one likes the physical act of having an abortion (any more than she may like her yearly mammogram, life-saving chemotherapy, or temporarily uncomfortable dental surgery), a great many women like abortion itself. They like knowing that an unwanted pregnancy does not have to yield an unwanted child. They like knowing that their mental and physical health take precedence over an embryo. They like knowing that they own their bodies. Many medical procedures are physically unpleasant, but that doesn’t lessen how grateful we are to have them available when we need them.

Suggesting that abortion be “safe, legal, and rare,” and crowing that “no one likes abortion,” accomplishes nothing for women’s rights. Pandering to the anti-choice movement by implying that we all find termination distasteful only fuels the fire against it. What good is common ground if it must be achieved at the expense of women who have had or will have abortions? Those women need advocates like us more than we need support from anti-abortionists. Rather than trying to cozy up to the forced-birth camp, women who value their freedom should be proud to say that they like abortion. In fact, they should venerate it whole-heartedly. Abortion is our last refuge, the one final, definitive instrument that secures our bodily autonomy. What’s not to love?

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  • wolfwytch

    Thank you! I’ve been saying the same thing for years!

  • trustingwomen

    Preach!

  • johann7

    As such, we must avoid stigmatizing it in any way. No woman benefits from even the vaguest insinuation that abortion is an immoral or objectionable option. That’s the weak argument made by misogynistic, forced-birth advocates, and it has no place in a dialogue about reproductive freedom. Terminating a pregnancy is not an unethical act, yet suggesting that abortion should be rare implies that there is something undesirable about having one.

    Hear hear!

  • pegjohnston

    This is a brilliant essay, thank you for cutting through all the craziness. I would like to add another reason to love abortion. As a provider and counselor, I find that it is one of those rare events when you are allowed–demanded–to step back and look at your life. Affirm it, question it, change it, tweak it. Whatever. It gives women the opportunity, if they want it, to understand themselves as agents of their lives. There can be a lot of knowledge and wisdom that comes from such life defining experiences and it should be celebrated.

  • gwenfrewi-morgan

    How about after the birth? Would you draw a line at the birth, or would you (like a couple of medical ethics academics over here in the UK) feel that it should be ok for a woman to have her newborn terminated, entirely at her choice?

     

    If you would draw the line at birth, why would you?

  • prochoiceferret

    How about after the birth? Would you draw a line at the birth, or would you (like a couple of medical ethics academics over here in the UK) feel that it should be ok for a woman to have her newborn terminated, entirely at her choice?

     

    After birth, the infant can no longer have any effect on the woman’s physical health (unless she consents). Meaning, there is no reason for her to have an “abortion” (actually infanticide).

     

    We’re not medical ethics academics here. We just don’t like seeing womens’ human rights violated.

     

    If you would draw the line at birth, why would you?

     

    Because that’s the point at which the entire reason why a woman should have the right to an abortion comes to an end. Kind of like drawing the line on life-saving medical intervention at death, or drawing the line on calling the fire department at the point when the fire has burned itself out.

  • cassie-oates

    You are exactly right about seizing that moment in time as a chance to reassess, redirect, and change. I promised myself, when I made the decision to have my abortion at age 20 (almost two decades ago now), that I would seize life, celebrate myself, and never allow fear to get in my way again. Since then, I’ve moved across the country, found the kind of relationship I never would have dreamed of in my teens, and built an amazing life. All the positive changes I made toward my own growth stemmed from that choice.

  • stainiap

    Saint Michael the Archangel,
    defend us in battle.
    Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
    May God rebuke him, we humbly pray;
    and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host -
    by the Divine Power of God -
    cast into hell, satan and all the evil spirits,
    who roam throughout the world seeking the ruin of souls.
    Amen.

  • kbeaty

    Do you mind seeing the other human’s rights being violated while insuring the woman’s isn’t? I mean no hostility – I am simply asking the question as a person who likes to think through issues and analyze positions. I can only conclude that somehow one who was allowed to be born has deemed them self to be of superior value and worth, therefore, what they want – sex without the naturally intended potential consequence – is of greater precedence to the existence of another. Is that a fair analysis?

  • jennifer-starr

    Staniap, is there a reason that you’re spamming this all over our board?  Because it seems rather nonsensical, actually. 

  • prochoiceferret

    Do you mind seeing the other human’s rights being violated while insuring the woman’s isn’t?

     

    There is no [human] right to life support from someone else’s body, so there is nothing for me to mind seeing. Unless, of course, you want people to be forced into donating their spare organs…

     

    I mean no hostility – I am simply asking the question as a person who likes to think through issues and analyze positions. I can only conclude that somehow one who was allowed to be born has deemed them self to be of superior value and worth, therefore, what they want – sex without the naturally intended potential consequence – is of greater precedence to the existence of another. Is that a fair analysis?

     

    No, not really. People who drive Hummers also deem themselves to be of superior value and worth, and therefore, what they want – to rule the road with a gas-guzzling V8 behemoth – is of greater precedence to other drivers on the road. And this is as American as freakin’ apple pie.

     

    Sorry, Kbeaty, but in this country, we respect individual rights. It’s a little thing we like to call Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.

  • prochoiceferret

    Saint Michael the Archangel,
    defend us in battle.
    Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
    May God rebuke him, we humbly pray;
    and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host -
    by the Divine Power of God -
    cast into hell, satan and all the evil spirits,
    who roam throughout the world seeking the ruin of souls.
    Amen.

     

    Hey Mike, just an addendum—

    Please defend us if and when the devil manages to take over the Catholic Church and turn your boss’s earthy institution into a bastion of evil and misogyny. Things could get pretty hairy if ol’ Satan gets to passing off his philosophy as Ms. Lord’s teachings.

    (Actually, this has already happened… it’s a long story, I’ll tell you about it later, but for now could you get on this ASAP? It’s really starting to become a problem for the mortal women.)

     

    Anyway, thanks again. Regards to your boss. Amen.

  • prochoiceferret

    Staniap, is there a reason that you’re spamming this all over our board?

     

    I figured it was because this “Saint Michael the Archangel” guy is a pro-choicer who reads this site, and “stainiap” was hoping this person would come across his request if he posted it across a few articles.

  • laire

    Do you ever miss your baby?

  • jennifer-starr

    And the actual point to this question, Laire?  Beyond the rather obvious trolling and harassment, that is…

  • prochoiceferret

    Do you ever miss your baby?

     

    Yes, I’m sure she does when she’s away from her, like most mothers.

  • jdelbalzo13

    Absolutely – I miss both of my children when they’re not with me.  

     

    If the question was meant to be, “Do I regret my abortion?” the answer is a resounding “No!”  It was a very positive and empowering experience, and I’m grateful for it.  

  • crowepps

    The label “Mean Girls” is a tween expression used to describe girls who exhibit anti-social behavior known as Relational Aggression.  …  Mean girls thrive on drama, and often resort to cyberbullying to torment their victims.”

    http://tweenparenting.about.com/od/tweenculture/g/MeanGirls.htm

    “Relational Aggression (R.A.) is a form of bullying common among tweens, and especially tween girls. The behavior describes an individual, or a group of individuals, who try to hurt a peer, or sacrifice another’s standing within their peer group.  … Tweens who practice Relational Aggression do so to increase their own social standing, or control others. “

  • colleen

    Is that a fair analysis?

    No.

  • welshmama

    I agree with the wider point of this article, being that I’m unrepentingly pro-choice and 100% supportive of the women I know who’ve had abortions.  The only thing I disagree with is the assertion that not proclaiming to “love” abortion is an attempt to placate the pro-life/anti-abortion crowd.  I don’t love abortion.  Can I love something that makes me sad?  Maybe.  Not there yet.  But that’s just me.  I do love choice.  I love that every woman has the legal right to choose what’s right for her and do it safely.  And I rebuke any legislator or doctor who tries to take that choice away.  That’s just how I feel; it has nothing to do with any movement.  But if my saying so does nothing for women’s rights, then I guess my donations of time and money and my lobbying will have to do it instead.

  • contra

    One can only understand the irrationality behind “safe, legal and rare” if you have a belief that human life is sacred and that something  extra magic happens when a sperm and egg unite – in other words you must have a religious belief in the soul. If you don’t have that belief, moral anguish is incomprehensible. As Hitchen’s wrote “Religion poisons eveything.”

  • whocares1

    I find it very interesting that the very organization that Ms. DelBalzo is the president of, when asked the question “What is A.L.L.’s position on abortion?”, answers this way:

    “Most importantly, we believe that there is no such thing as a “crisis pregnancy.” A baby-to-be should not be treated like a terminal illness, even if his or her conception was unplanned. The expectant parents should be given the support that they need, and the child should be welcomed into the world in the same way as any other baby.

    Sounds like that point of view doesn’t match this article…seems a little bit of a 180 from this article actually?

  • jennifer-starr

    You neglected to include anything from the first paragraph of that statement, which states that

     

      Our members come from so many different cultures, beliefs, and backgrounds that it would be impossible for us to take a position in the abortion debate. 

     

    Sounds like there’s room within that organization for a variety of beliefs, including the pro-choice beliefs of their president, Jessica Delbalzo. 

  • whocares1

    I still find her views on abortion are so strongly pro-choice because she says that no one should have to raise a child outside of the circumstances they want to raise a child, yet the opinion voiced for the organization she runs are such a differing point of view. I find it very paradoxical.

  • nick-danger

    Many Nazis found the Holocaust a very positive and empowering experience.

  • nick-danger

    Well, except for those who inconvenience us!

  • jennifer-starr

    Which has nothing to do with what we’re actually talking about. Especially since the Nazis were anti-choice. 

  • crowepps

    The ones who are eager to force other people to suffer do it BECAUSE they enjoy their power over others.

    Just like those in the anti-abortion industry want to force women to complete unwanted pregnancies so they can enjoy their power to make them suffer, or get that thrill of self-righteousness by shaming and blaming ‘the slutz’ and causing them to suffer in the process of getting an abortion.

    You’re casting the wrong group as the Nazis in your analogy.  There isn’t any ‘suffering’ involved when a less than 13-week fetus is removed. 

  • anfractuous

    Yes, I love abortion. Abortion is the cure for a condition, just as a vaccination or a medication is a positive step to treat a condition. The reason given to oppose abortion is usually that it is ending the life of a human being – a god-given ensouled human being. That’s the basis of the argument that abortion is immoral. I reject that argument, so the morality issue is moot. Abortion is and should be no more significant than removing any other growth of my body.

    A more nuanced argument was made by Katherine Hancock Ragsdale, an Episcopal priest. I don’t agree with her religious sentiment but her overall point is perfect. She says, as the last in a list of other reasons, “And when a woman becomes pregnant within a loving, supportive, respectful relationship; has every option open to her; decides she does not wish to bear a child; and has access to a safe, affordable abortion – there is not a tragedy in sight — only blessing. The ability to enjoy God’s good gift of sexuality without compromising one’s education, life’s work, or ability to put to use God’s gifts and call is simply blessing.” Read the whole speech here: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-religion/2245366/posts

  • colleen

    As do the folks who spend their days screaming at women entering and leaving clinics. As do ‘pro lifer’ folks like yourself spamming, trolling and verbally abusing the women who post here. Did you have a point, little Brownshirt?

  • colleen

    Duplicate removed

  • cofs

    That may be true, but the statement as written fits with DelBalzo’s personal beliefs as stated on numerous occasions over the last five years. With all due respect, this is a woman who once argued that a mother who left her daughter to die in the street should get her other two children back because, apparently, a homicidally neglectful mother is better than an adoptive one. She has (or, at least, had) some very extreme beliefs and I’m curious as to whether or not she still holds them.

     

    What say you, Ms. DelBalzo? Do you still believe that I have Stockholm Syndrome, as you put it back in the day?

  • jdelbalzo13

    I have no idea who you are.  I am against adoption, and I think family preservation and guardianship are better options for children.

  • crowepps

    You might not have contemplated the reason for the name “Reality Check”, but the posts here are supposed to be fact based.

    Ad hominem attacks like this one are useless here, as are your attempts to continue a personal vendetta against someone.

    If you have facts that rebut the facts in her opinion, gosh, put them up here, with links, because I’m sure we would all love to hear them.  There isn’t anything informative about a post that sums up “CofS still thinks you stink”.  Unfortunately we get tons and tons of obsessive whackos here, whose personal opinions about other people’s character have no probative value whatsoever.

  • juliag

    Amen! That right there took some balls. Bravo!

  • ljean8080

    feel about inter- family adoptions?i know 1 little boy was going to be adopted,got sent back to his bio parents and 6 months later they beat him to death

  • juliag

    You nailed it right there.

  • juliag

    I’d like to inconvenience you to give up a keydney for someone who needs it. And if you don’t I’ll call you a murderer.

  • colleen

    1 little boy was going to be adopted,got sent back to his bio parents and 6 months later they beat him to death

    One little boy was adopted out of foster care. His new parents took out a life insurance policy on him and pushed him over a 50 foot cliff 6 months later.

    Did you have a point? Because there is a very, very long list of folks who adopt and foster  children and end up doing terrible things to them. I am more than willing to provide cites.

  • cmarie

    ljean8080:

    You should take a look at this.  Remember this is strictly Russian adoptees.  Most natural parents (once given the support they need) will really provide very good homes for their children. 

    http://nobodyisforgotten.blogspot.com/

     

  • ljean8080

    they waited  till 4 days before the adpotion became legal to object and the abuse began right away.there are some kids better off being adopted.

  • prochoiceferret

    they waited  till 4 days before the adpotion became legal to object and the abuse began right away.there are some kids better off being adopted.

     

    Well, one time this kid got adopted. Then he turned out to be the Antichrist. Moral of the story: Adoption is bad and no one should ever do it.

  • infinitegrace

    I can’t even believe that there are women out there that believe this kind of garbage. It’s sickening.

     

    http://www.postabortionwalk.blogspot.com

     

     

  • kbeaty

    We respect everyone’s individual rights with the little thing called life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness…

    Everyone’s except the person abortion disrespects, you mean? That’s my whole dilemma in a nutshell. I cannot see how one can make such a statement without recognizing the fact that ,no, it’s not the case for a tiny member of our society that abortion kills. Someone’s right to LIFE, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness is being taken from them so that their mother can feel empowered by HER right to exert herself ????

    That little thing called abortion that you love and celebrate because it somehow gives power or control or validation or liberation or whatever else ,to me, is the perfection of self-exaltation. Your manifesto and the comments of others display a focus on self-glory at the expense of another. “I want sex without consequence, and if there is a consequence – I demand my RIGHT to kill it so I am not burdened with bearing it. There. That feels glorious and now I am empowered because I controlled my ‘destiny’ and took someone’s life.’” ?? I do not know how to wrap my mind around such thinking and that’s all I am trying to do.

    Forgive me for trying to and likely raising your ire. I am in no way seeking to offend you. I just wonder at the end of the day, which of us will go to our grave in peace. One who looked out for her own selfish gain and glory or one who lived by love and sought to raise up others instead of myself??? I’m not better than you…. But I mean, which means of choosing to live will result in true happiness??? I have to think the path you have chosen will NOT.

    Thank you for allowing me to respectfully challenge the “happiness” and celebration of the choice to kill. I cannot and do not agree with you, but I have sought to speak to you with courtesy and respect. I have not understood how pro-choice feminists can be so angry and hateful and acidic toward anyone who dares speak out on behalf of a human that they are killing. It only validates to me that happiness is not really a result of your choice. I feel sorry for one caught in the grip of “power” who cannot find the beauty of nurturing life and the joy of strengthening others with the gift of love.

    I care enough to want to question what causes this choice because I value you as a person and I only wish you could value the lives of 54, 000, 000 innocents who are not here today because of someone else’s selfish gain. I wish my entire gender could see – life is beautiful and it’s worth protecting and nurturing and loving. Thank you.

  • jdelbalzo13

    I support guardianship (with in-family as a first choice) for children who cannot be raised by their parents.  It doesn’t involve falsified birth certificates, changing the child’s name, or sealing records, but still gives the child the safety and security of a home if his or her parents cannot provide that.

  • crowepps

    You’ll feel better instantly if you stay off the internet — and so will the rest of us.

  • crowepps

    Guardianship is also less likely to be resisted by the parents in question, since it doesn’t make value judgments about the parents, doesn’t come across as punitive, and doesn’t imply to everyone, including the child in question, that his/her parents were defective or immoral.  When my mother was a girl in the ’20s, it was pretty common for parents who were struggling for one reason or another to send their older children to stay with a relative who had a shop or a farm where they could help out ‘until things get better’.  It wasn’t considered a disgrace.

  • prochoiceferret

    I can’t even believe that there are women out there that believe this kind of garbage. It’s sickening.

     http://www.postabortionwalk.blogspot.com

     

    Well, hey, that’s just one woman talking about the particular experience she had with abortion. I don’t think that’s garbage.

     

    It becomes garbage only at the point when the woman thinks that all women who have abortion should feel the same way she does. And yes, I would fully agree with you that that is sickening.

  • prochoiceferret

    Everyone’s except the person abortion disrespects, you mean? That’s my whole dilemma in a nutshell. I cannot see how one can make such a statement without recognizing the fact that ,no, it’s not the case for a tiny member of our society that abortion kills. Someone’s right to LIFE, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness is being taken from them so that their mother can feel empowered by HER right to exert herself ????

     

    The fetus may or may not have a “right to life,” but even if it did, it doesn’t have a right to free life support from another person’s body. Ask any of the hundreds of people waiting for an organ transplant whether or not their “right to life” entitles them to a free organ from someone who doesn’t want to give theirs up.

     

    That little thing called abortion that you love and celebrate because it somehow gives power or control or validation or liberation or whatever else ,to me, is the perfection of self-exaltation. Your manifesto and the comments of others display a focus on self-glory at the expense of another. “I want sex without consequence, and if there is a consequence – I demand my RIGHT to kill it so I am not burdened with bearing it. There. That feels glorious and now I am empowered because I controlled my ‘destiny’ and took someone’s life.’” ?? I do not know how to wrap my mind around such thinking and that’s all I am trying to do.

     

    Welcome to the United States! Land of freedom, liberty, rugged individualism, way-too-big SUVs and the NRA. You want to see the perfection of self-exaltation? Go to a Sarah Palin rally. Self-glory at the expense of another? Try vacationing in Iraq sometime. Right to kill? Read up on your Second Amendment, and buy a gun or three!

     

    Oh, and if the whole “I want sex without consequence” thing is that important to you, does that mean you’re okay with abortion in the case of pregnancy by rape?

     

    Forgive me for trying to and likely raising your ire. I am in no way seeking to offend you. I just wonder at the end of the day, which of us will go to our grave in peace. One who looked out for her own selfish gain and glory or one who lived by love and sought to raise up others instead of myself??? I’m not better than you…. But I mean, which means of choosing to live will result in true happiness??? I have to think the path you have chosen will NOT.

     

    Actually, we know real-live women who have been forced into carrying, bearing, and sometimes raising unwanted pregnancies. So we don’t have to rely on what you think would happen or not—we already know how this plays out in real life, and the scenario where women don’t have control over their own bodies is not the happier one.

     

    Thank you for allowing me to respectfully challenge the “happiness” and celebration of the choice to kill. I cannot and do not agree with you, but I have sought to speak to you with courtesy and respect.

     

    Too bad you haven’t yet learned how to listen.

     

    I have not understood how pro-choice feminists can be so angry and hateful and acidic toward anyone who dares speak out on behalf of a human that they are killing.

     

    Advocating for violations of the human rights of pregnant women will tend to do that. Although if being called a misogynist comes across to you as “hateful and acidic,” you may want to grow a thicker skin.

     

    It only validates to me that happiness is not really a result of your choice. I feel sorry for one caught in the grip of “power” who cannot find the beauty of nurturing life and the joy of strengthening others with the gift of love.

     

    Hey, dictators in totalitarian countries can make a lack of basic human rights sound all nice and flowery, too!

     

    I care enough to want to question what causes this choice because I value you as a person and I only wish you could value the lives of 54, 000, 000 innocents who are not here today because of someone else’s selfish gain. I wish my entire gender could see – life is beautiful and it’s worth protecting and nurturing and loving. Thank you.

     

    Too bad you’re not willing to extend that courtesy to the subset of your gender who are pregnant.

  • basiorana

    As my dad, an adopted child whose reaction to meeting his biological mother was “thank god she had the sense to give me up, and thank god she didn’t try to have her folks raise me,” likes to say:

    A loving home isn’t very loving if you’re just a guest.

    Either the family is good and kind and loving and should have the right to take a child as their own, and yes, TREAT them as such, complete with changing their (last) name and keeping abusive biological relations from having the chance to abuse them further, or they are not, and they should have no right to the child at all. Children do not appreciate fostering even with loving, good families because let’s face it, if you’re the one with a different name, you’re never going to feel like one of the family.

  • maiac

    Do you understand that fully and lovingly supporting abortion (when that is the right choice for a woman) AND fully and lovingly supporting unplanned parenting are NOT exclusive of one another? That being pro-choice means dealing with ALL choices people make with love, empathy, and compassion?

  • maiac

    So, because SOME women regret their abortions (every bit of data indicates this is a minority of women who have abortions) than NO woman can/should ever have an abortion?

  • ljean8080

    kids,would you want to be connected to her in any way?

  • jennifer-starr

    Would you want to be the child of Carri and Larry Williams? http://www.kval.com/news/local/130871178.html  

    Or maybe Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Lydia_Schatz

    Or the child of Lois Jurgens, perhaps?  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lois_Jurgens

     

    We can go back and forth with cases all day, Ljean–I still don’t understand what point you’re trying to make. 

  • all4thee

    “…an America otherwise plagued by anti-feminist, religious conservatism known for shaming women’s sexuality.”

    Ms DelBalzo,

    You pride yourself on being fact-oriented; however, you allow yourself to make biased and unsubstantiated statements such as the one above.  You obviously know nothing about religious conservatism if you believe it shames women’s sexuality.  Please do not make replies to this post or any additional statements about religious conservatism until you learn much more about it.

    Try starting at this website — http://www.theologyofthebody.net/  Take the entire Theology of the Body course and prepare to be enlightened on what religious conservatism really teaches about women’s sexuality.

  • all4thee

    As to adoption, you might want to stop reading the horror stories that are the exception and go out and meet the many thousands of happy families who have had successful adoptions.  For one small example, I have five nieces who have been adopted because their mothers were physically unable to have their own or another child.  The five children come from four different cultures and racial backgrounds, and all have various stories for how they came to be put up for adoption.  Yet all five are now happy, healthy, loved, and nurtured by their adoptive families.  The biological mothers who are alive are overjoyed with the adoptions, and all three adoptive families are overjoyed to have these children.  All five are treated by their uncles, aunts, and 40+ cousins as full-fledged members of the family.  One of the five is the closest and dearest friend to my daughter (her first cousin), and my daughter often observes how grateful she is that her aunt saved the girl that would become her “best friend” and made her a member of our family!  

  • prochoiceferret

    Try starting at this website — http://www.theologyofthebody.net/  Take the entire Theology of the Body course and prepare to be enlightened on what religious conservatism really teaches about women’s sexuality.

     

    That unless it happens within marriage, and does not make use of any artificial contraceptives (resulting in a risk of pregnancy for most reproductive-age women, whether they want that or not), it’s sinful and slutty and against God’s will?

     

    Sounds pretty shameful to me!

  • crowepps

    When they’re in their 20′s and independent, it would be really interesting to hear from them how they feel about having been separated from their birth families, adopted by strangers and moved to a different culture.

    The usefulness of your testimony about what you are guessing they feel is pretty limited, since you can’t read their minds.

  • crowepps

    We have heard of the Theology of the Body.  We just think it’s ridiculous.

  • colleen

    Try starting at this website — http://www.theologyofthebody.net/  Take the entire Theology of the Body course and prepare to be enlightened on what religious conservatism really teaches about women’s sexuality.

    I think not. We aren’t required to selectively read  dogma to recognise the political and interpersonal goals of the religious right and particularly not the dogma of the pedophile protecting and enabling Catholic church.. Y’all need to recognise that the Church has abrogated all claims to moral authority. Increasing the maternal mortality rate for Jesus won’t help you get it back.

     

  • colleen

    The religious right, Mormon, Catholic or Southern Baptist always speaks for the women and children under their authority. And those women and children are always so happy.

  • child-god

    Jessica, please reconsider =(

  • goatini

    “Reconsider” WHAT?

    Personal bodily autonomy – the right every MALE US citizen enjoys from birth? 

    Freedom to live a fully realized life as a full citizen, with full dignity to make decisions and plans about one’s own life – the right every MALE US citizen enjoys from birth? 

    The power and protection of law to make one’s own decisions and choices in healthcare options – the right every MALE US citizen enjoys from birth? 

    Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness - the rights every MALE US citizen enjoys from birth? 

    NONE of the above rights are dependent upon forcing celibacy on any MALE US citizen – but I know that as soon as I say that I celebrated the day that abortion became legal in my state, because it meant that if ever my birth control DID fail, I would be able to correct the mistake and continue on with my life, plans and goals – theocratic misogynists like you will pile on the false guilt, blame and shame, and tell me that **I shouldn’t have sex**, if I want the SAME rights that every MALE US citizen enjoys from birth without celibacy being forced on HIM.  

     

     

  • prochoiceferret

    Jessica, please reconsider =(

     

    I’m sure Jessica would be willing to reconsider for the right price. How much are you willing to offer? Please specify the amount in USD, and round to the nearest million.

  • megan5marie

    I agree with every word! Thanks so much! Tweeting/Facebooking right now. –@MeganGilland