“I’ve Never Heard a Woman Say, I’m So Glad I Had an Abortion”


When Mississippi was fighting over an amendment that would grant rights to fertilized eggs, the media spoke with many of the backers of the so called “Personhood” movement.  One of the key players was Jennifer Mason, who’s husband Keith was the founder of “Personhood USA.”

Jennifer’s reason for the amendment?  Women can’t be trusted to decide their own reproductive choices, because in the end, every single one of them will regret their decision

Q: You talk about the testimony of women who regret their abortions, but aren’t there a lot of women who have had abortions and never live to regret it? Isn’t their testimony just as valid?

A: I can honestly say I’ve never met one. I’ve spoken at pro-life and pro-choice forums and I’ve never heard a woman say ‘I’m so glad I had an abortion.’ One time I did hear that, and a few years she came back to me and told me she was sorry. I’ve never heard anybody say they regret having their baby, ever. I’ve never heard anybody say they wish they had an abortion instead.

Jennifer obviously never met Marie Annelle, who said about her experience, “For me it’s a no brainer. In one corner we have a fetus, in the other we have my job, my husband, my kids, the roof over our heads, the bills, food, etc. Yeah, no brainer there.”

As Lindsay Beyerstein writes:

If your culture says that everyone who does X feels bad about it, chances are you’ll feel bad too. Even if you don’t actually feel bad, you may feel bad about yourself for being off-script. Of course, if you feel bad about not feeling bad, you’re less likely to admit that you don’t feel bad, and the bias perpetuates itself.

One in three women has had an abortion. I’m sure Jennifer has just somehow missed the myriad of women who don’t regret their decisions at all.

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  • ldan

    I’m so glad I had an abortion. Seriously.

     

    And she’s never heard anyone regret having children? Really?

  • crowepps

    This comes from the same delusional world view as ““There’s a woman who came up crying to me tonight after the debate. She said her daughter was given that vaccine. She told me her daughter suffered mental retardation as a result.”  Just because you make something up doesn’t mean it’s true.

    Particularly when the statement is internally contradictory: “I’ve never heard a woman say ‘I’m so glad I had an abortion'” followed immediately by “One time I did hear that”.  Make up your mind which thing is true and stick with that.

  • divine-oubliette

    I am GLAD I had the right to an abortion when I needed one!

     

  • katie-0

    Her perception is invalid, in my opinion. 

    She claims to have engaged with pro-choice advocates, but she’s enmeshed with the other side. Perception is based upon experience, and I don’t think it’s a stretch to assume she spends most of her time communicating with the anti-choice community.  Obviously, she isn’t going to run into many women who are at peace with or grateful for their ability to choose.  After all, how could one in that community be outspokenly grateful for her own abortion while concurrently opposing abortion rights for others?  Totally illogical, right?!

    I had an abortion in 2002, and not only do I NOT regret it, but for a myriad of reasons, I can honestly say it was one of the best decisions that I’ve made.

  • halli620

    I kindly direct her to http://www.imnotsorry.net/

     

    Plus, of course people can’t say once their children are born that they wish they had an abortion because that knowledge would be horrible to subject their children to. Hopefully anyone who did feel like that would know better than to let their children know/think they regretted having them.

  • kaymarcie

    May I suggest reading the book called, “Abortion is a Blessing” in which the author, Ann Gaylor, as I recall, recounts the stories of women grateful for being able to obtain a safe, legal abortion. In an appendix of the book, I am quoted when I testified against an abortion ban years ago because I needed the option to terminate an affected pregancy as I had already given birth to a child with Tay-Sachs Disease which is uniformly fatal by the age of 5. The decision to terminate an affected pregnancy rather than bury another child would have been a no brainer. Fortunately for my husband and me, tests showed that our subsequent pregnancies were unaffected, but we would not have had the courage to bear more children without the option to terminate another Tay-Sachs pregnancy. We were so grateful that abortion had become legal and safe when we might have needed it.

  • beenthere72

    I am *relieved* I had an abortion and am *glad* I was able to obtain a safe one. 

     

  • julie-watkins

    I am *relieved* I had an abortion and am *glad* I was able to obtain a safe one.

    Ditto.

  • chocochipleesy

    I’ve had an abortion and I’m fine with it. seriously I have no regrets..it was like having a period. I used protection, my bf of 7 years used protection and I ended up sick and near death with a tubal pregnancy… I couldn’t wait for the abortion! I know many people that have gotten one and feel the same especially my friends daughter that was raped and became pregnant at the age of 12..they are on welfare and welfare would not cover the abortion so she was forced to have the baby and give it up for adoption…and to top it all off now her daughters mental health doctor isn’t covered by welfare..she see’s this dr to cope thru her rape, child given away-birthing process, lost childhood…the government and people against abortion need to try living thru that experience before pushing judgements and cut backs… I’m all for having babies but I’m also all for having choices…pro choice.

  • chocochipleesy

    I’ve had an abortion and I’m fine with it. seriously I have no regrets..it was like having a period. I used protection, my bf of 7 years used protection and I ended up sick and near death with a tubal pregnancy… I couldn’t wait for the abortion! I know many people that have gotten one and feel the same. I know a lot of people that don’t have this choice due to finances for example my friends daughter that was raped and became pregnant at the age of 12..they are on welfare and welfare would not cover the abortion so she was forced to have the baby and give it up for adoption…and to top it all off now her daughters mental health doctor isn’t covered by welfare..she see’s this dr to cope thru her rape, child given away-birthing process, lost childhood…the government and people against abortion need to try living thru that experience before pushing judgements and cut backs… I’m all for having babies but I’m also all for having choices…pro choice.