• robin-stein

    Thank you for so brilliantly discussing the very real need for comprehensive sex education and its intersection with our obligation as parents.  As an adolescent therapist who’s been around for a while who also had the pleasure of raising a teenage son, I can tell you first hand that despite all of my knowledge and capacity to discuss anything openly, my son wasn’t necessarily ready to talk with me about sex at any stage in his development.  I’m glad that at the time, I was associated with an organization that did an amazing job delivering comprehensive sex education to an adolescent population and that if I was not an appropriate resource, he could certainly access that information elsewhere without the stigma or discomfort that might come from talking to his mom.  


    Thanks again for shining a light on this complicated issue!  



  • george1mccasland

    Sex Ed programs still withhold information from teen boys, like condoms are 100% INEFFECTIVE when the girl wants to get pregnant.

    What Boys Do Not Learn In Sex Ed

  • goatini

    Another misogyist nitwit spreading lying garbage about “women as sperm theft felons”.


    Get a Fleshlight.

  • ginny-in-co

    23 years ago NBC was running an ad for the upcoming weekend movies during the week, all hours of the day. By Thursday as I recall, my then 4 year old daughter asked “Mom, what is a two stud weekend?”

    Sex and sexuality are oppressive in our free market advertising and entertainment. Sex ed can hardly compete with all the messages these kids have gotten for years before they receive formal education.

    My daughter and her older brother both got age appropriate information from me as early as anything came into their lives that needed to be explained or exposed. I am an RN and had good success finding books to read to them with age appropriate content. I was increasingly happy with the fact that as they got older, there was no indication they were very hesitant to ask questions. (A little embarrassed sometimes, which I tried to dispel with love in addition to the information they were looking for.)

    Ultimately I was backed up by a terrific program you are likely familiar with. At that time the Unitarian Universalist Religious Education sex ed program was “About Your Sexuality.” AYS has since been updated to OWS, “Our Whole Lives” which integrates the program from K on. The reality for both my children was that in listening to their peers at school; the ignorance and misinformation prevalent was so accepted amongst the other adolescents, they generally didn’t even try to verbalize how wrong it was. 

    Both have been very responsible about sex, delaying first experiences until they were 20+. Oddly though, my daughter was the only one in that 8th grade AYS class who hadn’t had sex. Her first intimate relationship was doubly successful. An older male cousin had managed to ‘take advantage’ of her at age 7 (during a family holiday gathering @*!$^&!%). After a lot of counseling in her 20s, she was able to talk to the first guy she had been attracted to about what she needed – and he stepped up to the opportunity.




  • crowepps

    Sex and sexuality are oppressive in our free market advertising and entertainment. Sex ed can hardly compete with all the messages these kids have gotten for years before they receive formal education.

    Sex ed that doesn’t provide full information out of a concern about ‘exposing innocent children to perversion’ and therefore doesn’t address the kinds of things that they have already seen and read and heard isn’t going to be particularly helpful.

    The things I had the most trouble navigating with my kids were the ‘cutting edge’ print ads that hinted at edgey stuff and the nudge-nudge-wink-wink stuff like you referenced.  My daughter was about four when I discovered she and the plump, grandmotherly sitter were skipping Sesame Street to watch daytime soaps with plots requiring men to be shirtless while rolling around in the sheets talking about how they and their female companions were cheating on their spouses.

  • ahunt

    Yeah…as everyone here knows, we failed miserably in the abstinence arena, and not for lack of trying. Far more successful in the responsibility/commitment messages.


    Be that as it may…


    All of ours are readers…science fiction being the preferred genre early on. Heinlein, LeGuin, Bujold etc. It wasn’t the visual external messages…it was “literature,” Crowepps…


    Sigh…no winning…

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