• squirrely-girl

    Thank you for articulating a number of my own reactions as an educator to this particular situation.


    An overarching issue I face with my Human Sexuality classes is providing the most complete information on each topic while balancing the student experience of that material.  This is particularly difficult in a class of over 250 students. It helps to remember that not every thing I cover is going to apply equally to every single individual… it really just can’t. 


    Considering it was an after class, non-credit demonstration of a relevant topic and there were clear disclaimers in the syllabus, I don’t have a problem a tenured professor at a university of this caliber hosting a respectful demonstration. Would they rather have him direct them to watch porn? Because that sex toy material is violent and degrading. This behavior exists. If you can’t cover it in a 300/3000-level course on human sexuality, when can you?

  • juliesunday

    according to the account i read, the man and woman who did the ‘demonstration’ were themselves visitors to the class, and the guy does ‘erotic tours’ and the woman is an exhibitionist, and they visited class and offered on the spot to do this demo because they had been talking about the g-spot and female ejaculation in lecture. i think having something on the syllabus in advance that students can ‘consent’ or not consent to attending is one thing, and something that would make me much less uncomfortable. but this, ‘oh hey, if you want to stay after class for this fuck saw demonstration, that’s cool’ is totally inappropriate. (and ‘fuck saw’? really?) i teach a college class in sexual health and when i show clips from documentaries about pornography i have students who get up and walk out. a live demonstration that isn’t planned–and disclosed–in advance is something i would never, ever do. i’m as sex positive as can be, and i encourage my students to watch and read good erotica and i point them in the direction of high quality materials but to assume that students want to watch this in the presence of others isn’t fair, and i’m incredibly skeptical of any ‘educational value.’

  • plume-assassine

    I feel the same, and I consider myself a highly sex-positive person, too. I found myself rolling my eyes when I heard about this. I don’t think the professor should be disciplined or anything, and I don’t think anyone should have prevented it from happening either. But, I don’t know, something about this just rubs me the wrong way. (No pun intended, ha.)


    I doubt that it has any educational benefits either, unless you are a man who has never had (or seen) a sexual experience with a woman before, or if you are a woman who has never experienced orgasm before. To me, it just seems like an excuse to put on a live porn show.


    Actually, I am one of those people who can’t watch *most* porn either, because it just makes me angry (because most of it is sooo damn fake, and centered on acts that are strictly limited to the man’s pleasure. I just hate how het porn totally disregards and devalues the woman.) I can’t imagine watching a live show like this. I mean, it’s great if they did have a warning in the syllabus, but I imagine if this out-of-class sex demonstration was just an off-the-cuff thing… it could pose some awkward problems for people. I would worry that some students would feel pressured to go, for fear of being labeled a “prude” otherwise. I know that’s a problem for me– I love sex, enjoy a thorough knowledge of sex toys, encourage people to explore their sexuality, enjoy erotica (which I think differs from mainstream porn), and I just like talking about sex in general… but some people still automatically assume I’m a “prude” because I can’t stand porn (live or otherwise) and this porn-saturated culture really gets me down.

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