Piers Morgan’s interview with Oprah was revealing on many levels. Over the years Oprah has shared much of herself with her world audience but this interview revealed a different aspect of her to all of us.
We all know that Oprah is singleminded in her focus and that she is unafraid to share her vulnerabilities and work them out with all of us, but her words regarding her loss of her baby at 14 years-old were heartfelt and memorable on many levels.
She shared that she “had no connection whatsoever ”and “felt nothing but just, OK, relief….” Oprah had internalized her father’s words when he said that if any girl child of his brought “shame” on the family by having a child before marriage he would “would rather see a daughter of mine floating down the Cumberland River…” than have her be a part of his family.
On The View today Barbara Walters wondered how it was that Oprah could feel no emotion with regards to losing her baby. I thought that it was not difficult to understand why Oprah felt no connection to the child because even at that time she knew what she wanted and needed for her life to flourish: and a child was not it.
A woman like Oprah would not be where she is without great strength of character and mind. She also likes to deal with reality and not revel in delusion or illusion. Maybe, at a later date, she might have mourned the loss of that child. We will never know because she did not divulge this information.
On the other hand, because of her great inner strength she might have processed it differently and just left it behind. It might be hard for some of us to understand this but some people can be very clearheaded when it comes to making decisions about their lives. The fact that she can reveal such a private time in her life so publicly says that she has done quite a lot of inner reflection. This is quite ‘Oprahresque’ (my word meaning like Oprah).
Even though the revelation was quite depressing I am sure there are many women out there who will identify with Oprah and feel relief that someone like her understands.