• saltyc

    Because the whole situation, of women being asked to sacrifice their lives for the rest of us, and the rest of us can’t even allow her to have an abortion because we are “morally” offended by it is so screamingly wrong, I just can’t get through this very important and must-read article right now, it will ruin the rest of my day.

    Another issue, are the non-soldier wives of army men, they have a hard time accessing services because they’re not covered by insurance, live in an army town with no providers, etc. It’s sickening that I get calls from military wives needing abortion funds when they should qualify due to fetal complications, health risks, etc but these exceptions are rarely granted.

  • forced-birth-rape

    ~ I just read in my September 2010 US vogue an infuriating article titled Bye-Bye Baby. Yearlong deployments for mothers of young children By Elizabeth Rubin. Quote from the article, “What astounded me is that in the past decade, 100,000 mothers have been deployed to Afghanistan and Iraq. Not even the Soviets, the Israelis, or the Iraqi Baathists have sent mothers of infants or toddlers to the front lines.” ~

  • arekushieru

    Well, what about the fathers of infants and/or toddlers?  The article just sounded like it was still contributing to sexism towards women, but in a different way.  Sorry!  ><;

  • forced-birth-rape

    ~ One of the women in the article was a single mother, she had no one to keep her ten month old son, so she did not go in for deployment and they arrested her.~

  • colleen

    We live in a culture where zealots strive for a culture in which motherhood is obligatory and a punishment for having agreed to have sex and fatherhood, even in the simplest form …financial support, is optional. Indeed we’re rapidly approaching a time when the majority of infants will be born to single mothers.

  • arekushieru

    I’m just thinking (maybe like Colleen suggested in her comment below…?) that even single fathers seem to be given a special pass over single mothers…?

  • colleen

    I didn’t  mean to imply that the military wouldn’t deploy single fathers. These days they will deploy anyone.

  • arekushieru

    No, I’m saying that single fathers are less likely to be perceived by the public as committing a dereliction of duty by going on a mission from the military than single mothers would be.

  • crowepps

    Keep in mind, these people are not just outraged by the idea that women are having sex without religious sanction, not just horrified by the ‘promiscuity’ of having a sexual relationship with more than one man in a lifetime, but worried about the ‘disastrous’ outcome of single women raising children at all.

     

    I cannot find the quote right now, but in a discussion of gays adopting, one Christian insists that children ‘had’ to have a man and women as parents, and if that could not be provided, then it was BETTER for the child to be put in an orphanage than to be adopted by a gay OR A SINGLE WOMAN.  It doesn’t make any difference to their opinion if the single woman is the biological mother, either — if she raises the child herself without a ‘male influence’ to ‘demonstrate masculinity’ then we all KNOW what’s going to happen!

     

    Conservative Christians strongly discourage even religiously devout, single Christian women who remain virgins as they approach middle age from adopting difficult to place older girls because their assumption is that without a man in the house to ‘supervise’ the parenting, the child’s character will be ruined.  No single woman can ever be faithful enough, even obsessively devoted to, compliance to their rigid religious strictures to ‘earn’ the right to be a mother without the male seal of approval conferred by a marriage.

  • crowepps

    And it is particularly ironic when the conservatives ALSO say that the ‘father is an absolutely vital part of the home and must be present to raise the children’ simultaneously with their ‘support the troops’ message that there’s no problem with father, married OR single, being gone for a year or so.  It’s hard to understand just what that vital thing is that he contributes if it can be done in absentia.

     

    If having children and their healthy upbringing are THE most important issue for society, and children REQUIRE both biological parents in the home to be healthy adults, then parenthood should disqualify ANY soldier from being deployed.

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