(VIDEO): Q: What Do Young Men Know About Birth Control? Scary Answer: Very Little

Growing up in the Washington, DC area, (Silver Spring, MD to be exact) and living in DC for a good part of my life, the Washington City Paper was one of the staples of my childhood. Now that I’ve lived in NYC, I have not spent as much time checking out the paper online as I used to, but when I came across a particular post on the paper’s site about how men in the DC area talk about birth control, my interest was piqued again.

A new part of the paper for me is a section called “The Sexist” which is written by Amanda Hess. Honestly, I chose not to spend much time looking past what was posted on the first page after I watched the video (included below) even if the tagline of the blog is “Sex and Gender in The District.” This was mainly because I didn’t see any writing/articles/themes that were written targeting me as a reader.  The blog post I did read, Men Explaining Birth Control, contains interviews with men on the street and in their homes in the DC area being asked about various birth control and contraceptive methods: oral birth control pills, emergency contraception (aka morning after pill), the patch, and the ring. They share what they know about the method and how it works.

I will warn you, I didn’t find this funny; I found it rather scary.

If ever there were evidence of why “teen” pregnancy prevention programs do not work, this is it! Often pregnancy prevention programs, efforts and resources are focused on cisgender (young) women. There is this assumption that it is only women–but not the men with whom they are (hopefully) having consensual sex–who need the information on contraception and pregnancy prevention. It is not often that men (transgender or cisgender) are included in such conversations, or even envisioned to be a part of them.

With some sexuality education programs still separating classes by gender, limiting conversations about birth control and contraception (and the difference between the two), and with education focusing just on male condom use among men, are we really surprised that pregnancy prevention efforts are not working as well as they could? I’d be interested in knowing if the men interviewed could discuss how to properly use a male condom, demonstrate how to do that, and/or discuss the difference between the male condom and the female condom and how they are used.

Then there is the assumption that youth who identify as gay or lesbian do not need to know the same information regarding contraceptives and birth control. This cannot be further from the truth. Gay and lesbian youth may or may not want to have children, some may choose pregnancy to avoid coming out, and others may end up having sex with cisgender partners.

I wasn’t too surprised by the results of this video, but I also wasn’t entertained. Instead I found it extremely odd that in “Chocolate City,” with a huge international population, there were no men of color to speak with or interview. I’m not sure if there would be a difference in the knowledge men of various racial, ethnic, national origin, and/or documentation status would have in comparison to the very white presumed-U.S. participants in the video.

Other thoughts I’m having about this video: would younger men today know a little more? Will young men know more in another few years? The language used in the video was very telling, anti-choice, and specific. So much to unpack, does someone else want to do that? What can I do right now as a form of direct action to reach men of all ages and help them understand how birth control and contraceptives work? I’d love to hear what readers think and if you can suggest any websites that are dedicated to the sexual and reproductive health of (young) men.

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  • lauracarroll

    That video is very disturbing.  Your piece inspired me to look around for sites that are about sexual and reproductive health of men…what I found most are erectile dysfunction sites. Telling. You also inspire me see what my male teenage and 20 something godchildren know–almost frightened to ask!  ~L

  • biancalaureano

    Hi lauracarroll, I’d love to hear what your godchildren have to say! If you are comfortable sharing please do! I’ve struggled for a while finding good sites targeting boys. Thus far I am ok with the online community (which you have to pay to use in full) BrainPop. It targets middle-high school students mostly and I find engaging.

  • heather-corinna

    Just FYI, we have always done this at Scarleteen.  Not only is all the BC info written with the understanding that people of all genders and orientations are reading it, we also directly talk to young men online and in in-person outreach about contraception and the importance of them knowing as much as possible about the methods female-bodied friends and partners are using.

  • wcshields


    To know more about birth control, everyone should visit Method Match, a very useful contraception “chooser” created by ARHP:


  • saltyc

    Very interesting tool. I’m glad they included the withdrawal method, which is not mentioned enough. Most people falsely think it’s not effective because there’s sperm in pre-ejaculate.

    It is free and has been used for millenia, and for people who can’t afford or for whatever reason can’t get access to the other forms, it is very useful.

  • frolicnaked

    SaltyC, agreed about withdrawal. Not because it’s a particularly effective method or because it’s the best method for everyone (I’ll readily admit it’s neither), but because accurate and complete information about every method. Also, in addition to why people may choose it as a primary method, there are couples who use it as a back-up method to supplement whatever else they’re using. And while withdrawal alone is about 73% effective over the course of a year, withdrawal in combination with just about anything else is over 90% effective (with typical use).


    That said, I am a little concerned with the site’s categorizing all fertility awareness techniques as the “rhythm method.” Like “withdrawal,” “rhythm method” is another buzzword that a lot of folks equate with “may as well not be using a method. And both of these — the idea that all fertility awareness techniques = “rhythm method” and that they’re not at all effective — are erroneous.