There seem to be a lot of people against abstinence-Only Education. I believe for pre-teen and teens and even for most young unmarried adults abstinence is a great way to go.

There seem to be a lot of myths out there regarding abstinence education. Abstinence is really just about good old fashion common sense and modesty.

People against abstinence education often leave common sense out of the sex argument. There are people who say it is wrong to wait until marriage to have sex. I could be a really mean person and write that as fact for all people against abstinence. I believe what people are really saying is sometimes circumstances exist and adults are in long term relationships that feel trusting. There are economic and social reasons not to marry especially within today’s world. There are young widows and old widows and possibly a whole bunch of good reasonable situation that I can not even think off that might lead to trusted sex but not marriage.

I am completely against casual sex. It is silly to me to have relations with someone whose name you may forget after more or less than an hour. There are consequences to our actions and health consequences are a major consideration to any sexual activity. Using protection only decreases the risk. Having casual sex or not use protection in a non marital relationship seems reckless and irresponsible behavior and dangerous behavior in my eyes.

Abstinence only education is about taking a stand and saying, "this is how I am going to choose to respect my body, and my health.", This is  abstinence only education. It is 100% safe sex education. You can not go wrong telling an unmarried person not to have sex. The advice protects anyone taking it from sexual transmitted issues and unwanted pregnancy and being involved in possibly a shameful or stressful public matter, such as who really is the father?

Other sex education however carries bad possibilities. Birth control pills can fail and condoms can break. People do lie, and not everyone has the emotional or economic maturity to go get a physical examination to make sure the sex partner is really in good healthy. Sometimes people do not show certain condition even upon a physical examination. Emotional maturity is essential. What do you do upon finding your partner has cheated on you. What do you do when your first sex partner walks out on you or worst tells everyone how easy you are and not that it is fair but start people looking at the cloths you enjoy wearing as proof. This can be a serious teen and young adult issue. So, is one mature enough to make your partner where a condom when the partner may not want to wear one. Your partner forces you to have sex without a condom when you have only agreed to have sex with the condom… is it rape? What if a woman lies about being on the pill? People against abstinence often belittle these matters. These are real issues that are attached to having sex even within marriage. The subject is the same but the issues can be different.

This is what abstinence education is all about. Upon not having sex one can really avoid all these possible problems, concerns and issues. Waiting to have sex until marriage will also personally lessen a lot of these sexual issues. (This is the millennium, our culture have changed a lot, so I am also slowly changing that view). The same way some people teach the benefits to safe sex, those of us encouraging young teens and adults are giving them the facts to the benefit of abstinence and waiting for marriage. Having sex with only your marriage partner more than likely is already a more mature, and healthy sexual relationship.

 

Then there really is the other argument. Different sexual experiences with different partners can enhance your understanding of what good physical sex is for you and can be an empowering revelation. So, I think the real issue is abstinence VS experience. Which is better for you and your lifestyle? I think that is where people who knock abstinence get confused. Abstinence education can be empowering for young teens too. It can make it okay for young boys not to lust so physically after young girls and it can make it okay for a young girl to flirt shamelessly without having to give in to the peer pressure of sex. I.e. being called a tease. It is an opportunity to empower yourself to emotional grow sexually before jumping in physically.

Yes, issue of cloths and treatment of young woman and the treatment of young men are a major part of the abstinence argument especially when addressing young teens. What we are talking about then is discipline. There are people in the world who seriously lack it especially within the subject of sex. Making a bad judgment call regarding sex can be mentally, physical and emotional, and legally devastating. How someone sees you may determine how one acts out on you. That is just a fact of life. Are you emotionally mature to care for yourself against these social taboos? I do not believe most teenagers are ready. I think most young adults are just starting to understand and in a position to be ready to learn.