‘My OB Said WHAT?!?’

I am sure most women who have been pregnant and birthed a child can quote a line or two from their ob-gyn, midwife, lactation consultant or other health care provider that just makes them cringe upon remembering. At the time, in one’s innocence or cluelessness, it may have sounded perfectly normal, maybe somewhat curious but you accepted it since you were either a) in excruciating pain the likes of which you never imagined was survivable, b) in an almost hallucinatory state, amazed at your ability to feed another human from your own body while half-asleep or c) supine on an exam table wondering how much longer you’ll be able to take the uncomfortable weight of pregnancy pressed against your spine.

Pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum days and weeks are clearly vulnerable times for women. And, sure, there are moments when even the most well intentioned of statements can be taken as completely and utterly offensive because come ON, don’t you see that I’m in a sensitive state?! But I just discovered a new site, "My OB Said WHAT?!?" that captures some of the more absurd and truly insensitive statements made to women that you really cannot mistake for anything but thoughtless and stupid [disclaimer: I do not know who the administrator of the site is nor can I vouch for its authenticity though there is nothing on the site that seems inauthentic].

Some of them, as far as I’m concerned, verge on incompetence though. And others get to the heart of why it’s not hard to imagine that too many women don’t feel confident in their ability to birth the way they choose in this country or to get the help and resources they need to breastfeed or to simply advocate for what they need. Like this one:

“Babies are just too slippery, I would most likely drop it. You need to
get into the bed. They aren’t as slippery that way.”-Family Doctor to
mom who wanted to birth standing up.

It’s not hard to understand how misconceptions and flat-out lies about childbirth are perpetuated, hmmm?

If you’ve got your own to add, head over to the site and email the administrator. 

Like this story? Your $10 tax-deductible contribution helps support our research, reporting, and analysis.

For more information or to schedule an interview with contact press@rhrealitycheck.org.

  • my-ob-said-what

    My OB said WHAT?!?


    Thanks for the ping! This site is just getting launched and I have been just thrilled with the response so far! Long time in the making, and definitely needed to show that words matter and women giving birth remember what is said to them, kind or unkind. The stories and pictures and tales being submitted to me sometimes make me laugh and sometimes break my heart! My hope is to also soon include links to evidence based information that provides the truth around some of the inaccurate comments made by providers in all areas. No one deserves to be spoken to disrespectfully, and certainly not during birth!

  • amie-newman

    let me know when you’ve got more information up. The comments you’ve put up thus far help tell a story – of the ways in which women in this country have been taught not to rely on their own instincts and inner wisdom. Some of what is up already is just mind-blowing! Looking forward to reading more! Thanks for putting the site together,

    Amie Newman

    Managing Editor, RH Reality Check

  • catseye71352

    “You have 16 mins. to get your placenta out.”


    Catseye  ( (|) )

  • jillunnecesarean

    I think this is one of the best sites to come along in awhile. It’s the FAIL Blog for maternity care!