If Oz is the common ground of
culture wars, Will Saletan is the Tin Man. He doesn’t need brains, he
doesn’t need courage, but the guy needs a heart.
Will is a provocative writer on subjects I spend a lot of time
thinking about — abortion, contraception and reproductive
technologies. As a professional in the field of reproductive and sexual
health, I generally appreciate his thoughtful, outsider perspective.
But every now and then he writes something that makes me double down on
my commitment to a pro-choice perspective.
"For liberals, that means taking abortion seriously as an
argument for contraception. We should make the abortion rate an index
of national health, like poverty or infant mortality."
Abortion as a rationale for contraception? Why not women as the
rationale for contraception? Why not children as the rationale for
contraception? Why not healthy sex as a rationale for contraception? My
support for birth control education and services is grounded in my
belief that everyone has to make their own decisions when it comes to
the most intimate, important, life altering aspects of human experience
– sexuality, pregnancy and parenting – regardless of whether I agree
with their decision or not.
"…28 percent said they had thought they wouldn’t get
pregnant, 26 percent said they hadn’t expected to have sex and 23
percent said they had never thought about using birth control, had
never gotten around to it or had stopped using it. Ten percent said
their partners had objected to it. Three percent said they had thought
it would make sex less fun."
Will Saletan concludes this is a "failure to teach, understand,
admit or care that unprotected sex can lead to the creation – and the
subsequent killing, through abortion – of a developing human being."
Will is right. This statistic is a story of failure and it is not
simply one of access. But Saletan’s solution shows a failure of
imagination and of compassion. In these statistics I hear the voices of
women who lack basic information about their own bodies’ reproductive
cycle. I hear the voices of women who had sex when they didn’t want to.
I hear the voices of young women who have not yet learned how to
distinguish their desire for affection or affirmation or even their
desire for sex in a way that lets them take control of their destiny. I
also hear the voices of women who have not yet learned to respect their
own body and their capacity to give life, but I do not hear any woman
saying "I didn’t know abortion would end a life or potential life."
For me, the value of this work is not solely about reducing abortions,
or even unintended pregnancies. It is about creating a sense of
ownership among women and men — old and young — about their own body
and their relationships with others because this ownership is a key to
healthy bodies — bodies free of substance abuse; healthy relationships
— relationships free of coercion or violence; and healthy children —
children who are born to parents who are ready to commit to their
obligations as providers, caretakers and role models.
Yes, we all should be more thoughtful and deliberate about our
sexual and reproductive lives. Speaking for myself, though, I’m not
motivated to do this when some elite white male points his finger at me
and says, "What is wrong with you? Why don’t you see the world the way
I do? If you would only do what I think is right we could all be in
Oz." So Tin Man, don’t forget to ask for that heart. And maybe a little