• invalid-0

    Thank you for posting this. The issue of violence aganst women is a complex and important one. The idea of shifting the question from “why did she allow him to beat her” to “why did he beat her” is incredibly important.

  • http://toysoldier.wordpress.com invalid-0

    I find it rather sad that Katz presented gross misinformation in his comments. According to the most recent statistics 1 in 6 males will be a victim of sexual abuse by 18. Approximately 40% of those perpetrators are women. It is truly disturbing that Katz felt the need to deny male victimization, and even worse that he used a completely inaccurate stat–like 99% of all rape victims are female–to support what appears to be his tacit endorsement of sexual violence against males.

  • invalid-0

    Is that culturally and legally we have a really hard time defining rape. People’s definitions of ‘rape’ vs. their definition of ‘sexual abuse’ can be all over the place. Therefore, it’s really hard to compare a statistic of rape victims with one of sexual abuse victims. Depending on who is asking the questions and who is answering them, rape can be any number of things and sexual abuse can also be any number of things.

  • invalid-0

    Actually, Toy Soldier, Katz is quoted as saying, “Over 99 percent of rape is perpetrated by men, but it’s a women’s issue?”

    In case it needs to be broken down further for you to understand, he is saying that of all rapes committed (against both male and female victims), in 99% of the cases, men are the perpetrators. Since men are committing the vast majority of rapes (again, against both male and female victims), we need to reframe the problem as an issue of men’s violence, not women’s victimization.

    Try not to jump to conclusions about Katz’s motivation until you actually read and understand what he is saying. Because it seems that you are the one with the inaccurate statistics.

  • invalid-0

    Well, I found a statistic that says that 90% of rape victims are women which was obtained by the Bureau of Justice. As for the 1 in 6 boys being sexually abuse before age 18, I don’t think the previous statistic includes all types of sexual abuse, only acts that fulfill the legal definition of rape.

    I think women’s violence against men and women’s sexual abuse of males adheres to a different psychological profile and results from different causes than men’s. And I don’t think that women’s violence of men or sexual abuse of boys is a systematic or ingrained part of society like men’s violence is.

  • invalid-0

    I’m so glad to see Jackson Katz getting some attention. My husband and I attended a talk he gave at a nearby university. My husband was really affected by what Katz had to say and is in the process of reading The Macho Paradox. We have a four-year old daughter and for the first time my husband is seeing our male-dominated culture in an eyes fully opened way.
    I know he sometimes wants to stop reading because it’s discouraging to know the reality of the world our daughter and other girls will be facing as they grow up. I encourage him to keep with it though because he can help her prepare to face it only if he is informed himself.
    I just don’t understand why Katz isn’t more of a presence in the media. He has such vitally important things to say.

  • invalid-0

    First off, if Katz is going to talk about these issues, he needs to stop using euphemisms and start calling things what they actually are. He is stereotyping against males, no matter how you look at it. Even if all school shootings and spousal abuse are perpetrated by men, it does not make them men’s or women’s issues. These are societal issues. The media uses passive voice to report many issues. How about when America sends a peacekeeping force overseas? We are really sending a militant force into another nation to kill and oppress our enemies. We need to stop focusing on men and women in our country, and focus on what our country believes as a collective.

    Stop telling children that men are the dominant gender and this needs to change. Start telling them that everyone is equal, and that will make it true. If my son approached me about someone’s “sexual orientation” I would not say to him, “Some people don’t like fags but they’re ok in my book,” I would tell him it is ok for any person to love any other person. This man is foolishly supporting stereotypes while at the same time trying to destroy them, something that will never work.

  • invalid-0

    Growing up as a male in America, and knowing personally a victim of rape, I can say with utmost certainty that Katz is right when he says that we need to look seriously at the way we raise men and define masculinity in this country. It is absolutely disgusting the things that men still believe and the justifications that men use to abuse women physically, emotionally, or psychologically. Whether or not we have experienced these things firsthand, the current approach of “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” will not serve to change the underlying thought processes that many men still have. Whether most men acknowledge it or not, we are raised to believe in many of the archaic stereotypes that our fathers were raised with, that we should have some form of control over women, and that many women “ask” for the things we do to them. Ultimately, when we truly look at the pain and suffering this causes, we should all find some role in changing the way our society views “manliness,” both in ourselves and especially in the ways we raise our children.

  • invalid-0

    You seem to be forgetting there is a difference between sexual abuse and rape. I am not saying that Katz’s statistics are right, but I do not think he is endorsing sexual violence against men. Before you go off telling everyone how wrong he is, maybe you should get your facts correct yourself.

  • invalid-0

    This is headed in the right direction– inspite of the qualms. Let’s not trip over statistics and semantics so much, though. Where are the solutions? It is important to focus on perception but we need to, simoultaneously, take active roles in turning the trend. I would like to see men change the way they think about these issues. Let’s not tell men how to think differently… let’s help men learn to change their paradigm. Let’s facilitate.

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